Why we’re unhappy — the expectation gap | Nat Ware | TEDxKlagenfurt

Why we’re unhappy — the expectation gap | Nat Ware | TEDxKlagenfurt

Reviewer: Peter van de Ven I remember being shocked
the first few times I went to Africa. I was shocked when I met
a one-legged taxi driver in Kenya. I was shocked when I met Sonia,
an orphan schoolgirl in Rwanda. And I was shocked when I met a disabled
subsistence farmer in Mozambique. What shocked me wasn’t their poverty,
but their happiness. I found their happiness confronting,
far more confronting than poverty. Of course, not everyone was happy, but of those above a basic
subsistence threshold level, I was surprised at how
genuinely content many of them were. And I became fascinated
by this notion, this idea of happiness. And since then, I’ve researched it,
I’ve worked on it, I’ve thought about it. I’m interested in it
from an economics perspective; it’s one of the things
that I research at Oxford. And I’m interested in it
from a social enterprise perspective because happiness is, after all,
the ultimate social outcome. I think it’s particularly appropriate
to talk about happiness because we have with us
the Prime Minister of Bhutan, the very man who pioneered,
who introduced, and who championed the idea
of gross domestic happiness, rather than GDP, as a way
of tracking a country’s progress, as a way of monitoring
how governments are doing. But before we go into that, I want
to begin with a little quiz, a game. It’s just a simple multiple-choice quiz, and I’ve invited some other
participants to join us on stage. So, I want you to just raise your hand, I want you to answer honestly
when I give the questions. So the first question. Imagine that you’re competing
in the Olympic Games, representing your country, what would you prefer
out of the following: would you prefer to come second,
to come third, or to come second last? Answer honestly:
who would prefer to come second? Raise your hand. Excellent! Who would prefer to come third? And who would prefer
to come second last? Excellent. It seems a large chunk
of you wants to come second last. I’m not sure I’d be selecting you
for my Olympic team, but – (Laughter) The monkeys, they select
a third, a third, a third; they don’t quite understand the question,
but they knew there are three options. (Laughter) It’s probably no surprise
that amongst the general population, most prefer second. So that’s question one. Question number two. Imagine that you’re given
one of two options: either you win the lottery,
and you get ten million dollars tomorrow, you can spend it however you want; or option B, alternatively, you get
a very small payment tomorrow, but you get gradual payments
throughout your lifetime – increasing payments, and in total, you get
eight million dollars over the course of your lifetime. If I gave you that option right now,
what would you pick? Who would pick option A? A lot of people. Who would pick option B? Excellent. Amongst the general population, most people seem
to be quite short-sighted; most people like
the ten million dollars tomorrow. Again, the monkeys 50:50. (Laughter) They did recognize
there were two options, not three. Third and final question. You get to choose your salary:
what do you pick? You get 50,000,
and everyone else gets 50,000. You get 50,000
and everyone else gets 60,000, or you get 40,000 and everyone else
you know gets 30,000. Who would pick option A? Who would pick option B?
Virtually no one. Who would pick option C? I think there’s one person
in an audience of about 200. You’re pretty consistent
with the general population, most go for option A. The monkeys, no surprises there. But let’s now think
about what the actual answers are. What does the research say
about what actually makes us content, what actually makes us satisfied, what actually makes us happy? To question one, the answer is actually to come third, which I think was the lowest
of the three options that you all gave. There’s no shortage of silver medalists
who appear unhappy. (Laughter) So that was question one. Question two, I think you did better on. You picked option B,
you went against the general population, and I think you beat the monkeys
on this occasion: they beat you on question one;
you won question two. And for question three,
the correct answer was actually C, which I think only one person got correct. And so the monkeys beat you
on two out of three on those, in terms of what actually makes us
content, satisfied, and happy as the research has shown. So I think it’s fair to say
that in general, you’re slightly better predictors
of happiness than the general population, but you’re still pretty pathetic,
I’m sorry to say. I think the monkeys beat you,
maybe that’s why they’re smiling. They won two out of three. And what’s interesting
is that it’s not only us that’s bad predictors of happiness. The macro data actually
support this as well. We’re wealthier than ever,
but unhappier than ever. We’re more prosperous,
but more depressed. We’re less satisfied. We have faster and faster transport, but we’re faster and faster
to complain about it. In many countries, there are now
more suicides than homicides. We now have more goods
and services than ever before. We have technology
improving exponentially, but we don’t see a corresponding increase in our life satisfaction,
in our happiness. It’s perhaps one of the great
paradoxes of our time. And I think the obvious question is, Why is it that governments and individuals
are such bad predictors of happiness? Why is that we get it wrong so often? And I think it’s because
we don’t really understand why it is that we’re often unhappy. And so the obvious question is,
Why is it that we’re unhappy? What’s the explanation? Now it’s not an easy question to answer, but it’s one that I’ve thought about,
researched, and delved into. And through my research over the years,
through thinking about it, I think there’s one explanation
that I find far more compelling, far more plausible,
far more persuasive than any other. And that explanation isn’t that we have so much choice
that we get stressed. It’s not that we
are economically worse off; in many cases,
we’re economically better off. It’s not that we just have great reporting
of depression and suicide; that’s true, but it only explains
a small portion of the data. It’s not due to family breakdowns
or reduced freedom. You know, the reason why we’re unhappy,
the most compelling reason – as shown by the data,
as shown by research – relates to expectations. At a very basic, simple level, we’re unhappy when
our expectations of reality exceed our experiences of reality. When our expectations exceed reality. And I’d like to call this
an expectation gap, when our expectations
are greater than reality. It’s a very simple concept,
but it’s a hugely important concept to fully understand,
to fully get our head around. And to help us get our head around it, I’d like to think in terms of three
different types of expectation gaps – three different types of gaps based on the different ways
in which we form expectations. I think we form expectations
based on our imagination, based on those around us,
and based on our past experiences. So to this first type of expectation gap,
the imagination gap, which occurs when our
imagination exceeds reality. You see, when we choose to buy goods,
we choose from a range of options. When we choose where to travel to,
we often choose from a range of options. When we choose which leader to elect,
we often choose from a range of options. And how do we make that decision? What we do is that we choose the one
that we think will be the best. We choose the one that we imagine
will be the best of all the options. What we do is we try to maximize
our utility at a given price, that’s how most people make decisions. To do otherwise would be to choose an option that we
didn’t think would be as good, which seems a bit counterintuitive. Now the problem here is
that the very act of choosing the thing that we think will give us
the greatest happiness, that very decision-making process is the thing that actually
undermines our happiness because what it means
is that when we then see reality, when we then experience it, whether it’s the good or the place we travel to
or the leader that we elect, it’s highly likely that that reality
won’t live up to our expectation. And that leads to disappointment. And technology makes this so much worse. What technology has loused is things that are actually
unrealistic to appear real, things that aren’t even
on the happiness scale are made to seem as though
they are actually possible. We photoshop things in,
we airbrush things out, we digitally enhance photos. And what this does is
it makes us romanticize travel and makes us come up
with fantastical ideas about places that reality
simply can’t live up to. So we think Sagrada Família
looks like this, when it actually looks like this. (Laughter) We think the Taj Mahal
always looks like this, when, actually, often it looks like this. We think that the Mona Lisa
looks like this, when, actually, if we go and visit it,
it’s more likely to look like this. (Laughter) What technology does is that it
skews our vision, it distorts reality and makes the unreal seem real. Indeed, many of the times that when we’re happiest
when we go travelling, they’re actually the times when we
stumble across things we didn’t expect, when we discover things for ourselves, where we don’t have preconceived
notions of different places. And what also makes this worse
is selection bias. Many content-based algorithms, whether it’s a Google search
or Facebook News Feed, the way that it presents information is that it prioritizes those things
that are the best images, the most shared images,
the most liked images. You’re more likely
be shown a photo on Facebook if it has 200 likes than if it has 2. And so we come to think of the best images
as being normal, as being average. And this also plays with our imagination. That’s selection bias. Then there’s persuasion, because politicians often get elected
on the basis of promising things that they can’t deliver,
by raising our expectations. Who would you
be more likely to vote for? A politician that says, “I’ll fix
your problems if you vote for me,” or someone who says,
perhaps more honestly, “Things will probably be the same,
whether you vote for me or not”? Probably you’ll vote for the former, but you’ll probably
be disappointed as well. And so we’re in this constant cycle
of expectations being raised and hopes being dashed. It’s the same with companies. I mean, companies
are more likely to tell us that watches have never
performed tasks so quickly. They’re probably not going to tell us
batteries have never run out so quickly, both of which are true. And so when you have technology, when you have persuasion,
and when you have selection bias, what that means is that we
imagine and demand and expect more than reality can provide. And when the limitless
potential of our minds is met by the confined nature of earth, we’re disappointed, we’re unhappy. Expectations and disappointments
irrevocably intertwined. In terms of beauty, it’s no wonder
that self-esteem levels are so low. I mean, advertisers learned long ago that if you can make
people hate themselves, you can sell them things. Now they’re applying it
time and time again, and we see this. What we see is advertisers showing
only the best before-and-after photos. What we see is pictures of models
who are made to seem perfectly even though they’re not. We’ve become a society
of complainers, of perfectionists, of counter-factual historians – people who always imagine different
and better outcomes for ourselves, but people whose imagination
can’t be satisfied. So that’s the imagination gap. That’s why our imagination
exceeds reality, and that’s the first main reason
why we’re unhappy. The second main type
of expectation that we have, I like to call the interpersonal gap. That’s where we compare our reality
to the reality of others. Put simply, we judge ourselves
based on what we experience around us. If you earn 50,000 dollars
in a poor neighborhood, you’ll feel rich. If you earn 50,000 dollars
in a wealthy neighborhood, you’ll feel poor. If you get a small pay rise, but everyone around you
gets a large pay rise, you’ll be disappointed. Your gain is someone’s pain;
someone’s pain is your gain. Unfortunately, it’s a bit of a zero-sum game,
or so it seems. And it’s not only
relative income that matters; it’s also relative
appearance that matters. One person’s plastic surgery
is another’s psychic loss. Indeed, research has shown
that we’re actually happier when we’re with worse looking people because we’re perceived by others
to be objectively better looking. So when your friend asks you
to come to a bar or to a club with them, you know why. (Laughter) And what’s particularly
interesting about this is that we have an asymmetry of emphasis – we prioritize, we focus
on one end of the spectrum. We focus on the rich,
the famous, the beautiful, and pay less attention to the other end. And so we’re made to seem poorer,
made to feel poorer, made to feel less successful
than we actually are. It’s almost as though we’re running
on a hedonic treadmill, constantly striving to be happy,
but getting no closer, because when our standard
of living improves, if everyone else’s standard
of living improves as well, we don’t always feel happier. So that’s the second way
in which we form expectations, based on others around us. The third and final way is based on our past,
based on our past experiences. I call this the intertemporal gap. And we’re unhappy when our past reality
is better than our present reality. Take two people who have the same average lifetime income. There’s person A whose income
decreases over their lifetime, person B whose income increases. Now, research shows that you’re always
happier if you’re person B, if you have that increasing income, even though the average might be the same. Why is this? It’s because of something
that psychologists refer to as anchoring. We compare to our past,
and if you’re constantly improving, constantly exceeding expectations,
constantly moving forward, you’re generally happy. The reverse is true if you’re person A. And so what does this mean
in terms of raising children? I think often we tend to spoil children; we tend to give them everything
to give them the best start in life. But often the best intentions
don’t always lead to the best outcomes. Yes, we should support children, but if we give them everything, it’s much harder for them
to have what I call a positive intertemporal gradient – it’s harder for them to improve
over time throughout their life and that actually potentially
undermines their happiness. While I’m talking about parenting, I think another problem in our society is that we tend to tell children
that they’re special, that they’re unique, that they’re one-of-a-kind,
that they’re amazing. We tell them they can be
Prime Minister or President, that they can be the next
Mark Zuckerberg. We tell them that they’ll be
Beyonce one day. What this means
is that we raise their expectations. And so when that child gets a normal job, when they start a business,
and it fails, like most do, when they’re seeing career peaks with a rendition
of single ladies in the shower, they’re disappointed, they’re unhappy, their expectations haven’t been satisfied. Yes, we want to give children self-belief, but we don’t want to delude them,
and we don’t want to delude ourselves. So what we see is that our happiness
is largely determined by expectations. Our expectations are largely determined
by what we consider to be normal. And what we consider to be normal
is largely based on our imagination, based on others around us,
and based on our past. And so we have these constant battles: the battle between
our imagination and our reality; the battle between the reality
that we experience and what we think or perceive
that others experience; the battle between our reality
and our past reality. How can we win these battles? I think the first challenge, the challenge for entrepreneurs
and businessmen, for parents, for legislators,
for magazine editors is to take happiness seriously, to take expectations seriously. I think, often we relegate happiness
to the world of art, not science. We dismiss it, we think of it in terms of hippies
rather than businessmen. What we want is for entrepreneurs to focus on actually
improving contentment, not just increasing consumption. In terms of winning
the imagination battle, I think it’s important that we
make it known to content providers, the importance of actually
having realistic representations of images, people, and places and events. And we might even go so far as to ban things
like digital enhancement in ads. In terms of winning
the interpersonal battle, I think it’s important that governments
prioritize income equality and that we learn to compete
against ourselves rather than against others. And in terms of that intertemporal battle, I think it’s important
that we support kids, encourage kids, but also make them realize
when it’s impossible and not to give them
completely unrealistic expectations. Let me conclude. We seem to have been seduced
into a way of life that almost conspires in every way against the most basic level
of contentment. We’re terrible predictors
of what will make us happy. I mean, anytime monkeys beat you,
you know there’s a problem. We’re terrible predictors of happiness because the way in which we rationalize, the way in which we make decisions
is optimal on the basis of actual levels, absolute levels, but the way in which we feel is based on relative outcomes,
based on expectations. It’s expectation that explains why a bronze medalist can be happier
than a silver medalist, because the silver medalist
imagines coming first, the bronze medalist
imagines coming fourth. It’s expectation that explains why,
often, lottery winners aren’t that happy; their happiness doesn’t last because they don’t have
that increasing level of satisfaction throughout their life. It’s expectation that explains
why you can be happier with an income of 40,000
to an income of 50,000. We often think of happiness
in isolation, in a vacuum, when in reality our happiness
is far more complicated; it’s far more intertwined with our community,
our imagination, and our past. And it’s important
that we think carefully about how our minds work,
how our feelings work, how our expectations work. And it’s important that we change
the way in which we make decisions so that our thinking process
matches our feeling process. Ladies and gentlemen, for entrepreneurs that want
to improve the lives of others, as well as for people
that want to be happy, I think the first step
is understanding why we’re unhappy. And I hope that the next time,
if ever it happens, that your decision-making prowess
is compared to that of monkeys, I hope you come out on top. Thank you. (Applause) (Cheers)

Comments (100)

  1. side note this is how I would imagine Dorian Gray to look like

  2. They're too focused are trying to survive to have enough free time and space of mind to to realise and accept nihilistic thoughts and get depressed of consequence to how they can't answer the questions that arise

  3. It's impossible not to listen to this guy…. he is so perfectly formed in everyway… what a joy to be him. It's great that he cares about society at large so much. Bravo.

  4. He states that people are happier making $40k when everyone else makes 30K, rather than if everyone makes 50k. But he also states that governments should prioritize income equality. So what he is actually promoting is making people less happy since he wants income equality.

  5. Keep it in your pants ladies. Have realistic expectations ! There's something unavoidably annoying about an archetypal hunk warning about unrealistic expectations…maybe if he seemed a little less perfect !

  6. this is so true and relatable!

  7. I could listen this man talks all the day

  8. If you expect more then work harder! simple 🙂

  9. This is the man for the ladies with high expectations and I can cover the less expectant amongst you x

  10. The death of expectation is mediocrity; however, the key is to choose happiness now.

  11. I was dumbfounded that only a couple of people would choose option C for the third question. Surely people should know it's not the reduced quantity of money which matters but its relative scarcity compared against the materially reduced power of spending to which other earners are left! The question could almost, but not exactly of course, be paraphrased this way:
    "Would you prefer, in terms of relative spending power alone, 100,000 of GBP or USD in liquid disposable money now – or would you prefer to be the exact same age, your health the same etc., but it's 1973, and you are offered 90,000?"

    The fact that 90,000 of liquid disposable cash, in 1973 was worth so much more in its spending power terms then, compared with 100,000 now, is (or really SHOULD be…) so obvious to anyone with the slightest interest in economics or finance; yet, so few people seem to understand money that way.

    (anyone who still doesn't get the point – a bar of large chocolate might cost as little as 10 pence in 1973 and as much as 100 pence now, so it costs ten times more now, yet you've only ten percent more of your currency to spend on it, than if you had what seems to be less money then! It's the relative spending power which is the crucial point)


    The analysis about which place a person should prefer to be in, when competing with others is too simplistic and too short-termist in its analysis:
    2nd place is arguably the correct answer to question two, because although you will indeed be disappointed at first, yet then later on, realise that you've more chance of being the champion next time around, than someone who lost or nearly lost. For example many of the Wimbledon runners up, became later future champions. Yet those knocked out in the first round, can only be satisfied with their qualifying in the first place.

    RE "lottery winners not being happy," they should analyse the winners with high intelligence, yet were previously undervalued in life, and the researchers might be surprised with their findings…

  13. You have given me realization that i can enjoy my future more by managing expectations. My confidence and happyness derived from this will probably be self fulfilling. Thanks man. I will search you for more good stuff.

  14. So should we not expect the best of life? Should we not dream and imagine the Universe is sending us the needed circumstances and events to make our life be what we envisioned it to be? I like to believe in the power of visualization and power of thinking positive. We can't receive anything if we are unclear of what we wish for and we can't receive if we think it is not going to happen. And I don't mean I wish to be famous or have so much money than I know what to do with but I am talking about having resources so I can live without having to worry about money for my rent or basics. I don't think we have to settle down for working 40 or 50 hours per week and be paid just enough to cover rent and a car payment. I like to envision my life with abundance and wealth so I can have health insurance and Pay my bills and not live in constant struggle. I don't wish to be the next Beyonce or Jennifer Lopez or Gizzel Bunching. I will never be famous and I never want to be famous…fame is not what it appears to be…these famous people pay heavy price for their fame…no privacy, toxic dynamics with unhealthy relationships and problems follow them, many can't manage their lives and fame triggers them to go into a major downward spiral.
    And about parenting there are very bad parents who abuse you physically and verbally but also emotionally. And yet many of us managed to heal our lives and find peace and contentment. Other times parents spoil and give too much to their children and building their ego so much that those children grow up and become unhappy and deeply disturbed individuals who become angry and upset the moment they don't get their way on everything…there has to be balanced approach to everything

  15. Amazing insight!!!!

  16. not bad but not as good as others.

  17. High expectations will make us unhappy, only if we don't achieve them… so make sure to always achieve them u slob!

  18. Totally true. I would have saved myself a lot of pain and heartache if I didn't have the expectations I did and didn't compare myself to other people. I wish I found this video earlier.

  19. this is a beautiful man

  20. This is absolutely spot on. I hope more people have a chance to watch this.

  21. This man is God's gift to earth. Fearfully and wonderfully made.

  22. His voice, his face and humor. Oh, right, the message of this video is also great , thanks 🙂

  23. Clearly most single women should just listen to the audio to not get distracted by his appearance in order to truly grasp what he's saying and not leave meaningless comments under the video.

  24. Ironic how people are calling him perfect huh?

  25. Most distracting… It is kind of funny that this talk comes from a guy who seems to have everything going for him ha ha. Never mind. I wouldn't trade my life with anybody. Always strive to better yourself but be grateful for what you do have already, it could be worst, right? My glass is always half full.

  26. This is why The Last Jedi wasn't enjoyed by the audience

  27. This isn't new information. Psychology research has known all this for decades. All this comparison and unhappiness is just more amplified now with social media. A deeper talk and research on that would have been more original.

  28. Very Interesting until he gets to the recommendations. Government government government – solve our problems and make things equal

  29. Will u Marry me ?😍

  30. good talk but dare to disagree. i’m from nomadic country. cannot imagine people happier than them. they are far away from modern world seductions and have been living like this for centuries. nothing has changed for them. no progress in development. but they are happy with their small world as they simply don’t know alternatives. however i wouldn’t be happy living their life. in my opinion happiness is derived from achievements of goals. and expectations help to set those goals. most of the time i will fail but one out of hundred will be achieved. happiness is a relative matter. you experience it only if you have disappointments and only i you have more disappointments than moments of happiness. the whole beauty of happiness is in its rarity

  31. Excellent talk. You should write some books.

  32. Who cares about happiness BS. Money is everything. Money makes the world go round. We all have to pay bills.

  33. Happiness exists inside everyone of us. The problem is we keep searching for it outside

  34. Wow. This is powerful. You will not be Beyonce 😍

  35. My eyes are opened to fake happiness now

  36. How can you possibly turn off the expectations that are ingrained in you?? Sure you might “tell yourself” otherwise but deep down you know you were still expecting something different. Like these ted talks lol… they’re really good at identifying the problems but they never seem to have legitimate solutions

  37. one lady lose it and now she have to go to bathroom to clean herself 🙂 .. Nice talk by the way

  38. Anyone know Yon González? I swear, I thought it was him in the thumpnail

  39. Good but it’s a bit weird that he is smiling all the time, is it comedy or is he trying to flirt with someone in the audience? Except from that, interesting.

  40. Lower your expectations and you will be happier.

  41. Introduction to Persuasive design

  42. If he was fatty, bold and short it would have been better.
    All those comments of the ladies saying he is cute made me unhappy.
    He is a high expectation. Funny isn't?

    We are unhappy because we don't appreciate what we have and we look at what those who have more than us.
    Doing so we feel we dont have anything and we feel unhappy.
    Prophet Muhammad said this, peace and blessings upon him.
    I felt unhappy at listening to this lecture at how beautiful, in shape, knowledgeble, respected and intelligent this man is and all those comments from the ladies.

    So what I'll do is follow the teaching of Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings upon him.
    I need to be reminded by someone who has less than what the Creator gave me to appreciate and be happy about what I have.

    It works, it is from Allah, the Creator, the Most Merciful and Most Kind.
    Wish you all the best brother Nat.

  43. This guy is wonderful

  44. He went to Oxford. His expectation is that he’s better than everyone else.
    I felt an overwhelming urge to smash his face in.

  45. But it depends upon the perception of every individuals.

  46. It’s been my favorite channel so far. The speakers bring me variety of incredible experience and knowledge .

  47. This is amazing talk.
    We unconsciously make our unhappiness and our misery.

  48. What is this handsome and intelligent creature’s name?

  49. Be creators, not just consumers.

  50. How is the APP called??🧐

  51. Expectation➡️ betrayal ➡️hate

    Especially if you're lied to by someone you trust. That is a point not included in the presentation, being lied to.

  52. He kind of looks like Nat Ware when he wears that shirt.

  53. "lower your expectation" the words that I like

  54. Stop watching halmark

  55. Awesome Talk. Every one must need to watch this. Simple and Super.

  56. Yeah. A government mandate against airbrushing. Sounds like a good idea.

  57. This young man is amazing

  58. This guy is one of the modt handsome man I have ever seen. But what fascinates me more is the thought process he has. Any sensible and wise girl's delight.

  59. Well, you did it Nat. I'm setting up a file for best TED's and you're the first one there. Talks like this do make the world a better place. God bless.

  60. I personally don't care about relationships, my life is about personal objectives, everything else is secondary.

  61. Less want, more happy.

  62. How much do you make ? But nevertheless great speech sincerely

  63. Very, very fresh perspectives…

  64. he looks like he has read myth of sisyphus

  65. This is why apple users are always depressed

  66. 💝He's so handsome, so I can not focus on what he is talking about, but I believe he did a great job and his presentation is excellent.💝

  67. Based on the comments, most people after watching fell in love with the speaker, because he is cute and smart. I can't agree with what he said. What we think becames our reality. And yes, dreams come true. But when your expeсtations are low and you don't really need that much, the Universe is not going to give it to you, it gives it to someone else, who craves for it. Also with children: it is the last thing to tell a kid that something he/she dreams about is impossible. No, children should know that they are unique, smart and talented and they can achieve anything! There might be failures, but they are meant to be outstanding people, if they want so. How can you tell them different and still wish them happiness??

  68. The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said,
    "Richness is not in having many things for display and rather richness is the richness of the self."

  69. What an amazing man! WOW!!!

  70. It was so difficult for me to focus on the talk because of his beauty. I had to watch it 3 times !

  71. so, basically, this video tells us that monkeys are happier than humans; because they don't give a damn about other monkeys having a Mercedez or plastic face or having a more beautiful wife. They all care about bananas.

  72. Who is ??
    I want email this man

  73. Brilliant ted talk

  74. His forehead is brighter than my future

  75. This ted talk is amazing.

  76. He looks like prince charming

  77. Why can’t we have a guy like this as President of the US? We have the worst person in the world instead! Sigh.

  78. Is the money question adjusting to inflation? I hate these kinds of questions when inflation is completely ignored, it is so damn hard to get investments that pay you significantly more than the current inflation.

  79. Most people feel the more you HAVE, the more you have to complain about.

  80. an excellent presentation & research & analysis.

  81. I can say just one word "SUPERB".

  82. one of my favorite videos ever.

  83. I feel it has to do with being grateful. When you have less what you do have means more.

  84. There is huge gap between my life and my deeams.☹

  85. I dont know how some people get more than their expectation in every aspect of their life.

  86. Embodiment of imperialistic benefits talking about the happiness of impoverished people. I couldn't write this stuff lol.

  87. now my perception of how handsome I am has gone down after watching this

  88. One of the best Ted talks I have listened to. I have been making myself unhappy with really high expectations now becoming more self-aware. Comparing less and loving myself more.

  89. Happiness is over-rated.  It is usually based on "happenings".  Whatever is happening at the moment determines your level of happiness.  Joy…is a choice….and it has nothing to do with what is happening at the moment.

  90. Reasonable expectations facilitate gratitude, and gratitude is a trait most closely correlated to happiness

  91. People miss the entire point of the talk because they were swayed by his looks. Like lmao you mean to tell me if a super model got up there they aren't still living on this planet, with all others, with the same expectations, financial struggle and emotional. We all have dealt with it. As with him, too.

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