When mental illness enters the family | Dr. Lloyd Sederer | TEDxAlbany

When mental illness enters the family | Dr. Lloyd Sederer | TEDxAlbany

Translator: Katarina Ericson
Reviewer: Denise RQ Thank you for joining me. We’re here together because we share
a common interest and concern, and that’s helping a loved one
with a mental illness get the kind of care that’s going to
make a difference in their life, and that of their family. I’m talking about a family member
like John, who was 16 when he started
falling behind in school. He stopped seeing his friends,
he quit soccer where he’d been a star, he started spending countless hours
in his room, refusing to come out. His parents could smell marijuana, and they could hear him
in the middle of the night, yelling, at God knows what. I’m talking about
a family member like Irene, a married mother of two teenage girls,
who started missing work, despite always having been
a reliable and hard worker. Her family was concerned,
they were concerned about her, they were concerned about the income
with her husband out on disability, and they were concerned
that she’d lose her job. But she had trouble concentrating, even the littlest things
were really difficult for her, and she frequently said: “I can’t do this, I feel hopeless,
I don’t know if I can go on.” I’m talking about a man
like Roberto, who is 69 and has longstanding problems
with high blood pressure and diabetes, and had a heart attack
a few years earlier. But for him, it was his depression that got in the way of his taking care
of his medical problems and put him at at greater risk for the
progression of those physical problems, and potentially, for another heart attack. Families sense it, they sensed deep down
that there’s something going on, there may be a mental illness
and they wonder, “What are the road signs?” ‘What are the hallmarks
of mental illness?’ There are two; there’s symptoms and time. The symptoms of a mental illness
array in three ways: there are problems with mood, problems with thinking
and problems with behavior. A person’s mood may become down, they may be tearful, cry,
and they feel hopeless, they may be irritable, or angry. The thinking changes. They may have trouble putting
one thought after another, their thoughts are jumbled or racy, they may start to become suspicious,
even frankly paranoid. Their ideas may not make any sense. They can also have trouble
with their behavior, their behavior becomes
noticeably different, there may be dramatic changes
in their sleep, and their eating patterns,
they may stay up all night. They may eat very little,
they may behave in odd ways, isolate themselves, be suspicious, or even at times get so paranoid
that they’re talking to themselves. These are the symptoms of mental illness; mood symptoms, thinking problems,
behavior problems, and the second hallmark
is that they persist. It’s not a matter
of their lasting a few days, they go on for weeks and months, and they need to for someone
to actually be considered ill, and they don’t get better on their own. There’s one more thing, another hallmark
which families have to be mindful of, and that’s safety. Is there a time where the family
becomes concerned that a person’s life, that they’re a risk to themselves,
to someone else, that’s a hallmark of mental illness
that needs to rise to the top. And even when it seems so obvious, many families may have
a hard time trusting what they see. They may never
have experienced this before, or the implications may be
just too difficult to bear, which is why I urge families
to write down what they see, what they observe, not what they feel,
what they observe. Things like, “Spent the weekend in bed,”
“Misses school every day,” “Is late for work,” “Picks at his food,” “His clothes droop off of him.” Write these down, and then think: “Who else is observing
the same thing I am?” Because that’s another person
you can turn to and say: “Here’s what I’m seeing,
are you seeing the same thing?” Because that’s a way to validate,
to gain confidence, that what you’re seeing
is indeed going on. And that’s going to be important
when it comes time to speaking with your loved one
about these problems, if they don’t bring it up themselves,
and many don’t. They may be ashamed,
they may not want to be a burden, or many times, the illness gets in the way
of their being able to recognize that they have these problems. So, who else can you turn to,
who else can validate? This is also going to come in handy
if you have a chance to go to a doctor’s appointment
with your loved one, because you’re going to be able
to bring information that you’re loved one
is not likely to provide. So, if indeed there’s
mental illness in your family, I want to offer four messages, four ways by which you can turn
these problems into solutions. First, don’t go it alone. Second, don’t get into fights. Third, learn how the mental health system works,
learn its rules, and how to bend them. And fourth, remember you’re on more
of a marathon than a sprint. Each of these in turn. First, don’t go it alone.
Don’t go it alone. There are people and places to turn to. With more than one
in five people in this country suffering from a mental illness
every year, that’s adults and teenagers, that means that there are
many others experiencing what your family is experiencing, or have. So think, who can you turn to? For many families it’s going to
be a doctor or a clergy person, someone who has known
their family, known their loved one. Every day, doctors, clergy,
have in their offices, families looking for help,
families in crisis. They’re one place to turn. Sometimes, other families have spoken out,
they’ve had a problem with depression, they’ve had a problem with addiction,
they’ve had a problem with trauma. They may be friends,
they may be relatives, they may be people you know at work, other families, or other places
and people to turn to. Sometimes a family’s been contacted
by a school counselor, that’s a good person to turn to. Many companies have what are called
employee assistance programs. These are confidential programs
that provide counseling, that provide information
about where to turn. I almost always urge families to go to,
and consult, NAMI. N-A-M-I, The National Alliance of Mental Illness. This is a volunteer organization
that’s been around for decades. Hundreds of thousands
of family members, nationwide, who’ve been through this themselves
and who’ve been trained, they’ve been trained
to provide information, referral, they do it on the phone,
they do it in person, many NAMI Chapters provide evening educational groups
called Family to Family. NAMI is a terrific resource,
and it’s free. The point is you need not go it alone, there are people and places to turn to. This has been learned
with every persistent illness, whether it’s heart disease, colitis,
diabetes, Parkinson’s, cancer, there’s no need to go it alone,
there are people and places to turn to. Second, don’t get into fights. This may be the hardest
prescription of all. Because you’ve tried reason,
you’ve tried persuasion, you’ve been patient
and it’s just not working. And you’re concerned;
you see your loved one getting sicker, you wonder what’s going to happen,
you know time’s not on your side. So what do we all do at that moment? We amplify our voices, we talk louder,
we start to push, we start to yell. But what does that do?
It invokes an equal and opposite reaction. It starts a fight, someone digs
in even more deeply. There are alternatives to fighting,
there’s listening and leverage. Listening. I believe that all behavior
serves a purpose. It just may be that we don’t understand
what that purpose is. For Irene, the mother I mentioned,
why is it that she’s avoiding work? She knows full well
that the family needs the money. She knows too she could lose her job. What is it that overrides that,
that has her stay home despite that? Listening, asking, that’s how we find out. John, the teenage boy,
who’s smoking marijuana. What’s that marijuana doing for him?
How is it serving him? It’s useful to him,
as is boarding himself up in the room? These are not good solutions, but they are the solutions
that someone has come up with so far. Listening is the way to get on the side
of somebody that you love, and see if there isn’t a way
to work out a better way, because goodness knows
these behaviors are not doing the job. But if listening isn’t enough,
then there’s leverage. I believe that in all families
it’s a two-way street. You give and you get,
and you get by giving. You get by giving. So I ask families: “What support are you providing
your family member?” Is it a place to stay, is it money,
is it a car, is it a telephone? Doesn’t matter. Whatever it is, those are
what you have to negotiate with, to say you get, and there’s something,
it’s a conditional getting. It’s about saying:
“Here’s what we provide, and in exchange we want you
to do something in your interest, something that’s going
to help you get better, like go to an appointment, take treatment,
do the hard work of recovery, take care of yourself.” It’s always in their interest,
that’s where the leverage is used, to help somebody do something
that’s going to make a difference to them. There are alternatives to fighting, the listening and leverage
is not the same thing as being disengaged, in fact it’s being
more engaged, in a harder way but in a more effective way
than getting into a fight. Don’t get into a fight. Third, learn how
the mental health system works, learn its rules and how to bend them. The mental health system
in this country sadly is way too broken. Families are going to discover this
sooner than later, and that means families will have
to learn to be vocal advocates for their loved ones and for themselves. They’re going to need to learn
what the rules are and how to bend them. I’ve seen families
with a kid off in college, and the kid stops going to classes, has a serious medical problem
or a disciplinary action, and they don’t hear anything
from the school. I’ve seen many families with a loved one
getting sicker and sicker, deteriorating, isolating,
using drugs, stockpiling pills, maybe even harboring a weapon. And the family tries
to reach out to the caregivers, they try to call the doctor,
they try to call the clinic, and what do they hear? “Sorry, I can’t talk to you
without permission.” That’s the Federal Privacy Law,
this HIPA, it’s called HIPA, H-I-P-A, it’s a HIPA mantra
that clinicians are taught. That’s a rule that you need to know
because it’s a rule you need to bend. You need to get a clinician
on the phone and say: “Wait! Don’t hang up on me.” “I know you may not be able
to give me information, but there’s no prohibition
against you listening, and you need to know
what’s going on at home, you need to know
what’s going to make a difference with your patient, or a family member.” This is not fair,
this is certainly not fun, but being a vocal advocate
has become a necessary part of healthcare, in medical care in general,
and in mental healthcare in particular. Fourth, remember that you’re on more
of a marathon than a sprint. Few illnesses, physical or mental,
come and go in a matter of weeks, most persist. And there are problems along the way. There are problems getting an appointment,
there are delays in appointments, there are questions
about the quality of treatment. Is it good enough?
Is it working? Is it sufficient? And then a loved one may stop
going to appointments, or stop doing the hard work of recovering. Recovery is not a straight line. People improve
and then there are setbacks, which test the morale and determination
of everybody involved. Everybody means the patient,
the family, even the clinicians. Which is why another way
of saying this is, never give up. Never, ever, give up. Even experienced clinicians
are not good at predicting when someone’s going to turn the corner,
when they’re going to start to get better. We know it happens,
we see it all the time, we just don’t know when. So never giving up
is a way to stay the course, because people do recover,
people do make lives with illness, lives that are gratifying to them,
but it means staying the course, it means never giving up, you’re on more
of a marathon than a sprint. So my four messages to families
where mental illness has entered, are: don’t go it alone, don’t get into fights, learn how the mental health system works,
learn its rules and how to bend them, and fourth, remember, don’t give up, you’re on more
of a marathon than a sprint. Recovery is possible,
people do make lives with illness, lives with work, with relationships, with contributional lives
that they can take pride in. There are many people like this,
they may just not step forward. They may be concerned about stigma,
they may doubt their own gains, or they may just want
to put the past behind them. Many people recover,
but they’re not visible, people do get better,
but it takes good treatment, hard work, support, support, support. It requires the tincture of time, and it means keeping hope alive. Thank you. (Applause)

Comments (67)

  1. Dr. Sederer condensed in only 15 minutes a lot of pragmatic information about how to deal with a mentally ill family member. Most families do not know what to do and this is a great service to them. Pass this around!

  2. Well said.  Thanks for your message. 

  3. This is a valuable , practical video. Many families will benefit from his advice.  I am grateful that Dr. Sederer is such a passionate mental health advocate. 

  4. So let me get this straight being late for work, crying, being tearful, having droopy clothes are symptoms of mental illness. Are we turning normal behavior into mental illness now ? How about issues like death, loss of a job, loss of a relationship, employment are a part of life and we need to have people in our society learn how to deal with these things. Not only that more than half of people in psychiatric hospitals have a history of trauma and many of their behaviors or symptoms are from the trauma that they suffered from. Not one hospital in New York where Dr. LLderer ( sorry for misspelling ) works has an inpatient program to help a person who is in crisis suffering from trauma. Peoples symptoms flare up because of life crises and date back from trauma, our mental health system is set up to medicate, medicate, medicate. There is no help like psychotherapy, dialectical behavioral therapy and if there is it's very expensive. Oh and it's not HIPAA It's HIPPA!!! Your a Doctor learn the terminology!!! 


  6. thank u… im a sufferer throughout past 6 years real bad, no medical help except e.r.s… and my family disowned me once i started crying alot, after then 3 years of suicide attepts, went without food shelter, clothing, medical care, lots of pain. Family couldve helped much. Im about to finally get disability and have started rebuilding my life alone.

  7. Sad that your parents don't support you .I have been told to love and keep loving

  8. My brother has an undiagnosed severe mental illness – something along the lines of schizophrenia. He is enabled by my father, though, so I don't see him getting help. I am scared what will happen when my father is gone.

  9. I know where it comes from–feeling unloved and then your family starts treating you as a second class citizen because of course your mentally ill which is a downward spirial into oblivion

  10. duh see how it is see how you say they feel worthless? humans need love this is a scientific fact

  11. see how you talk about the money? the woman is saying screw the money what about me? don't you love me? don't even care im sick? or am I just a money machine to you? why don't you do something about the money? im nothing to you that you care more about that than me

  12. my well meaning family sent me spiraling down to hell Take her to a doctor tell them how worthless and what a nut she is I want you to take note of what most schizophrenics the voices ect say and depressed patients say Im a piece SXXX

  13. this brain activity you see is actually the brain shutting down

  14. what loved one? you mean the person you ignored? that one that's screaming why don't you love me? why don't you care? your more conserned about how I look in public with you that my heart or soul? the one that went crying to their room months ago and you only now noticed?

  15. My oh, my. This is why I'm here… trying to find help for the most destructive force in the last five years for many people in the eastern USA. She COMPLETELY DESTROYED HER FORMER CHURCH. Look up "Donny Reagan, most racist pastor in America" and you'll see. She was the one who did this. Her mental illness destroyed her family starting a LONG time ago. She loved to gossip about very severe things and make HUGE false accusations against others in the family, for attention. When a huge string of imagined crimes began to be spun against an uncle, it destroyed that uncle's life. He even received death threats from the public and from law enforcement. The whole while, the sick niece was eating up the attention, adding to, changing, heightening the story every day with the help of cell phone and social media.

    This wasn't enough. After county and state investigations cleared the uncle of any wrongdoing. Her extreme ways called her to further action, so since 2011 she has slandered that uncle with ridiculously inflamed lies and false accusations.

    She married an abuser before that, who cheated on her with his brother's young teenage wife. They fought for two years about this. She found out in October 2010, and made everyone's life a living hell. One evening two years later, during a physical fight with her husband, she tried to kill him. there was a lot of blood, according to her mother.

    They divorced. Her father-in-law tried to get custody of her three kids. She used a similar tactic again for control, attention and selfish motives against her father-in-law that she used against her uncle. She falsely accused him of anally raping one of her three sons. She ended up homeless with three sons, while being extremely mentally ill.

    A black bodybuilder, martial artist and physical trainer in Springfield, Ohio took her in, out of pity. She took that to mean she was going to get married to the man. This was when she scoured through the online library of preached messages by Donny Reagan and found a 17 minute clip that she sent to Gawker and other anti-God gossip sites… causing international uproar about Rev. Reagan.

    She gloated on social media over having been responsible for the so-called exposure of Donny Reagan as being a racist. She ramped up her defamation attack on her uncle, meanwhile.

    The black bodybuilder saw the error of his ways and politely kicked the woman out. She says she became an atheist, but she really became a raving mad antichrist. She traveled the country a bit, still homeless, going from home to home with other people until they saw the error of their ways, also politely kicking out this dangerous psychopath.

    She began making really odd comments online, saying, "The beast of the Message (Reagan's religion) has been wounded, together we can finish it off." and, "It's perfectly normal for my boys to watch porn. Sexuality is natural."

    She met a guy who was also an atheist, who, was claimed homelessness at that time, though he's some kind of professor at a university. She quickly changed her name on the internet to hyphenate and add his name at the end. He also fronts a death metal band called, strangely enough, "Dark Psychotica." He had no idea what he had attracted to himself.

    They took advantage of a program that got her (and him) a home, at least, thankfully getting those three preschool boys off the street.

    She got a job, and worked it for about a year. She hatched a plan for easy money, seeing how lying about others has gotten her much attention in the past. She was also always claiming, for sympathy, this disease or that disease, and most recently, cancer.

    She claimed sexual harassment at work, and broke down in tests in front of her therapist. She got more than she bargained for and she was involuntarily locked up in a mental ward.

    Her boyfriend started a GoFundMe account in December 2015 to gather money for the kids Christmas and to keep them from becoming homeless again.

    Never know, but I can guess that if the EEOC or the Virginia state version of that gets a claim for sexual harassment at the workplace causing severe emotional distress, that if they do some digging and see the calculated pattern of lying of this woman, she will be charged with a crime, as well as losing her children for good this time.

    Criminal acts under the cover of mental illness don't get treated the same, and she knows it. So, she plays sane when it benefits her and she plays insane when it benefits her.

    She is a tornado to everyone who knows her.

    What can be done?

  16. Hallmark number one of mental illness:Psychiatrists exist, and a large out of control medical industrial complex best known as the mental illness system but which calls itself something other than what it really is. That's it.

  17. Mental illness is sometimes seen as taboo and goes untreated.

  18. Thanks for talking about the thinking

  19. Thank you so much for this talk. I needed this guidance in helping my mother. It's really hard and now I won't go after the marathon alone. This man is amazing!

  20. Helpful talk, but why are you suggesting that the teenager who smokes marijuana does it because of his parents or childhood? Teenagers smoke weed because they can, because it is easily available, and now legal in some US states. Many of them will develop Bipolar or Schizo-Affective Disorder as a direct result of this high THC (five times higher than when their parents might have smoked it) cannabis use, not because of their parents or childhood. Others will develop mental illness as a direct result of the pharmaceutical meds they were allowed to be prescribed when they were children, for example for ADHD. We have to recognize the consequences of all drug use on the brain, especially in young people. and take responsibility for the epidemic of mental illness in the Millennial generation.

  21. I have a brother who suffers from severe bi polar, schizophrenia and other mental illnesses. It hurts me to my core that my family and myself can't really do anything about it. It's almost as if he's on drugs but he's not on drugs. It's really sad and depressing. If anyone else out there is going through this I feel for you and my heart it with you and your loved one(s). We need to find a solution to these problems. It's as if I'm trying to cope with a death that hasn't happened yet. I just miss my bro. Love you cheeks. :,(

  22. I started flaking out 13.. sigh.

  23. I am a Ted Talk junkie and this is the most helpful talk I have ever watched!

  24. My sister is like a ticking timebomb when she gets angry or depressed about something she gets really aggressive and I always have anxiety when she's around even if she's doing ok. I don't know what to do because it really affects me but I don't want it to. Any extra tips pleaseee?

  25. Im the one in the family with the mental illness and this video just makes me want to kill myself

  26. FOR ANYBODY SUFFERING FROM SCHIZOPHRENIA. I am a daughter of a Schizophrenic patient and I read scientific literature and scientific studies on the internet for years now ………and I urge everybody who is in touch with this horrible disease to Google Schizophrenia and Gluten and also Schizophrenia and Casein and also Schizophrenia and Autoimmune disease. Schience has proven that it is an allergic reaction to GLUTEN and to CASEIN. Gluten and Casein (all grains and all milk products) in fact, in those certain persons who do suffer from schizophrenia, do trigger an Autoimmune Reaction to the BRAIN, which in turn is destroyed by the bodies autoimmune system. There are hundreds of articles on these topics. If you have any chance or control of the situation get your loved ones or yourself off the HORRIBLE Anti-Psychotics who do nothing else but kill you, get the patient and off the GRAINS and MILK. My mum was totally out of control from 1997 to 2007, while also dying from the NEUROLEPTICS. Then I managed to make her change her diet and she was symptom-free and medicine-free from 2007 to 2013. This is scandalous!!! 6 years of no symptoms and no medication for a 66 year old patient that had been previously been totally "lost" in delusions, and paranoia……she even was homeless for a month because she was so paranoid. But she recovered from that and lived 6 years in peace and without meds!!!!!! At that point her diet changed back to milk and bread, since she is in an elderly-home and her symptoms came back with a vengeance! She is heavily medicated ever since, with all the horrible side effects such as Parkinson tremor etc. This really is what a living-Death does look like. I do know that all the scientific literature IS true, because I have seen it to be true. Of course no psychiatrist in the world wants to hear this – they just want to keep pushing the deadly drugs – because this is where the money sits for them. So take action for yourself and for your loved one. Please – if you can – try changing your loved one's diet. And watch Dr. Peter Osborne and Dr. Tom 'Bryan on the topic of GLUTEN and SCHIZOPHRENIA.

  27. I have three brothers with mental illness. I love them but they need serious mental help. One is an alcoholic and suffers from depression and OCD. One has some kind of paranoid schizophrenic disorder and in an out of jail and prison and is a ticking time bomb. One has OCD or some type of schizophrenic disorder.

  28. They need a video to help mentally ill people deal with the world’s biggest idiots: normies.

  29. What about John whose main family members are all schizophrenic?

  30. Greg popovich doing these now too?

  31. I need help. My brother has had anger problems his whole life, but the past 5-6 months have been horrible and it’s only getting worse. He’s 15, smells bad , stays LOCKED in his room , cant properly communicate , etc.. but tonight it was the worst. My older brother snapped at him and it ended with everything destroyed and my little brother bleeding out bad. He’s in the hospital right now it looked like a horror movie. He was laughing the whole time. It is killing my entire family and him, my parents won’t sleep at night exhausted from working all day

  32. I'm not much of a marathon runner when it comes to problem solving, but I'm at the beginning of a long race to wellness with my spouse. I really needed to hear a lecture like this. The privacy law loophole was a great tip. Unfortunately, my spouse never put me on the approved list to share medical information with. The next time I want to tell the doctor about a concern between appointments, I will try the mentioned suggestion. Thank you.

  33. Nobody really wants to help the same way nobody really want to talk about money (special evaluation programs lets say like in shutter island somewhere in siberia or alaska or where ever it may be) , things are very complicated, I have the exact same problem with my brother who is enabled by my father, if there's god then there's testimony on how much difficult is to live with someone who has mental problems, out of his 27 years he's 9 years into something I don't know how to specify, schizophrenia or psychosis, never got any better since then, only worse, we had at least 10 attempts and later on situations where even the police will come with medical personel and take him on a program in a state children's institution of that kind, although he was already 18 they took him in to be nurtured as a kid for a special care, the first time he came back he was a little bit better, after few times of back and forth as time went by he would've went deep in progression of the illness and not taking the prescription and keep progressing the bad things and habits, so few times back on forth of that with prescriptions and stopping. He was a great kid before the illness showed up, really beautiful physically healthy male kid where plenty of people loved him plus being popular in school before he tightened up at home with behavioral problems and doing bad in school and drugs and alcohol… I don't know what happened but I think he ruined my beautiful family with sintetic drugs like speed and alcohol and marihuana, and me with him he ruined so many things for me, and I am trying my best to help myself and him together with my dad we try and I am very open and asking for help too cause it's been overwhelmingly bad in real sense of words. He is clean of everything except an occasional alcohol usually beer once per month in average for at least 5 years I know he should not drink but everything is chaos, never getting any better, I'm 31 and he's 27, I should have a life on my own having kids and doing all of that, instead of being born to fix something that looks like the summoning of the demon. My decision is to stay with them, because of my father firstly for sure, cause I know he will never quit on him cause he knows if he quits, my brother would be begging on the streets for cigarrettes and food, and that's why I have to stay home, I don't care what opportunities I am missing I work the work that I love, and I do it from home, I have a girl beside me that is living through all of that with me, so I really like to know at least an advice on how to fix this undescribable situation. Any advice is good.

  34. It is easy to fall through the cracks of the system. Family support can be limited. My family pays for my meds. But the most effective thing is cognitive therapy for me. Major Depression and anxiety and a sight impairment .I haven't seen anyone work with a patient who has both you rather get mental health services or services for the blind
    My conditions synergize. Try that one folks. Suggestions?

  35. The healty system it's not there for us. Peoples that need longest therapy the most often have the least money to go to the therapiste.

  36. Where was this two months ago. My husband is in jail now. Things got so bad. Now he’s looking at time I believe. I had to make sure my daughter and I were safe. It’s really sad.

  37. Don't go to a clergy member. They are NOT trained to deal with mental illness. In this otherwise good informational talk, that point of advice is extremely poorly thought through.

  38. In my case when mental illness enters and there is no family no one

  39. I been trying kill my self 27 years and i dont know how stop im well off born in good family but i feel never love me i kick out my family due my mental illiens and i dont care love anything in life i just want my family love me for who i am.

  40. Very useful information. Thank you.

  41. HIPPA is a stranglehold: killed the iconic family doctor. My advocacy fo my ailing loved one goes endlessly unheard. Doctors are a box-n-ship lot.

  42. What do you do if your patents keep enabling a mentally ill sibling?

  43. How about a talk on when families create mental illness?
    The NAMI idea is a nice fairy tale.

  44. What is the money source of NAMI if it's free? I personally don't trust any organization which offers free service and which doesn't have anything to lose. Does it have any connection with pharmaceutical companies? Is it really a reliable organization?

    I really don't understand how he can confidently say that treatment works while we know that average recovery rate for alcoholics and drug addicts altogether is as low as 4 percent? Why does he think that the revcovery rates for other mental health problems should be higher than this despite the fact that the treatments offered to those people are pretty much same? Remember that this man earns his living from that profession. Is it possible for him to be impartial in that particular matter? Is he really a reliable source of information regarding the success rates?

    Isn't it better if family members come together and honestly discuss the situation altogether instead of singling out the suffering member of the family? Isn't it better to define the problems and to offer solutions to each of these problems one by one and actively participate the process towards the solution altogether in these family discussions instead of getting help from a profession which has a dismal succes rate in treating mental health problems..

    Is it the behaviours and thoughts that defines symptoms in mental health problems? What about the events that lead to these behaviours, emotions and thoughts and the ensuing sleep and nutrition problems which might create the impression that these're genuine medical problems?

  45. This man is very superficial

  46. My father has also recently started showing signs of severe mental illness. Thank you for posting this video. If there is anyone out there who dealing with a parent with the same condition as mine, feel free to get in touch with me. Maybe together we can solve this problem. Two heads are always better than one.

  47. Wow I had mental issues and my family totally said its "all in your head, get over it"

    Oh wow, that cured my depression, paranoia, Insomnia.

  48. Depression sounds like a very benign condition. But I can tell you it's very difficult to motivate to even get up from your bed, go out to fetch your food and take care of your personal needs including visiting doctors for your regular check ups. The other social challenges are even more daunting like climbing a steep mountain. I am left wondering what exactly am I doing on this planet? Struggling to keep myself alive? The purpose of life has been robbed by this illness.

  49. I am from India ,I have 2 mentally ill people my sister and a mother ,I gave them medicine from past 5 years but there is no sign of improvement .
    Sometimes I get frustrated from them now I think I have no option to just berdsht them

  50. But what can you do when you have a sister with obvious signs of mental illness and doesn’t want help? We are having a hard time to get my 22 year old sister to get help before she hurts herself but she refuses

  51. Excellent info, Sir. Appreciated. Thank you.

  52. Thank you. You gave me hope as a parent.

  53. Dealing with my mother and brother. They've schizophrenia and it's driving me nuts. I did everything I possibly could. But, I'm getting tired..been dealing with them for 5-6 years.

  54. Thank you for this heartfelt, obviously experience backed message.

  55. This guy sound exactly like Bukowski

  56. Clergy,??? Really?? .oh you do not know of the hundreds of thousands if mental illness causes by clergy abuse …laughable….

    And ,please do not pretend you know ANYTHING about the complex human brain,emotional complexities and trauma caused imbalances that cause brain changes …you know Nothing.
    Pseudo scientist….

  57. When I’m off my medications I don’t sleep. I don’t eat. I have lots of energy. I become manic. Then I become psychotic with delusions hallucinations and then depression. My diagnosis is sychizoaffective bipolar. Sorry for my spelling. Thank you for sharing your videos. It’s helping me stay on my medications.

  58. well my familys killing me and i dono what to do. i feel like if i leave them and never come back theyll be destroyed but if i stay im getting destroyed. and suicides not an option.

  59. What to do when our loved one with mental illness is in denial about taking medication?

  60. what do you mean when you say bend the rules?

  61. Thank you Dr. Sederer for your calm demeanor and practical advice to help guide and support families and people affected by mental illness. I have known about NAMI since 2005 and it is very supportive to families. Finding out about you via U tube is fantastic though! Kinda like a shot of vitamin B as I continue in the marathon of advocacy. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
    I can't wait to read your books!

  62. I couldn't stop listening to this professional. Awesome, great job. Incredible to have people like this in the world. Thank you

  63. I isolated myself I lived with my husband and my family I didn't understand health issues I was having…after seeing a specialist I was told I've had anemia for 5 years and my doctors didn't tell me! I wasn't eating good for 4 years so I was very tired and could barely fuction I bacame a daily user of meth to get my day going keep me awake so my family never supported me emotionally, financially, spiritually so when they told me right before I went in for surgery That I had to move out they wanted nothing to do with me because I was smoking meth!!
    This was January 2019 its June 2019 and Im homeless trying to heal and gain my health sonI can live……family is not important to me but my health my mental health is

  64. Thank you so much

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