To Anyone Feeling Stuck Right Now

To Anyone Feeling Stuck Right Now

Do you ever wake up, sit on the corner of
the bed and ask yourself, What day is it again? Life has become one big blur. Tuesday, Thursday, what’s the point of knowing? You’re essentially on autopilot. Most things don’t excite you, there isn’t
much to look forward to and the mere fact that you got out of bed this morning is an
accomplishment in itself. …except you didn’t get out of bed. Not yet. You’re still sitting there mindlessly scrolling
through every possible social media platform as the hours pass by, and you don’t even
feel guilty about it. Okay, perhaps you feel a little guilty. But what else would you be doing anyway? Even if you had all the energy and willpower
in the world, what would you do with it? Not knowing what you want in life isn’t
exactly unique. There are a lot of people dealing with that
feeling. In a world of endless opportunities, where
all the knowledge in the world is available at the tip of our fingers, where the lives
of millions are displayed openly for anyone to see where the globe is essentially a playground
for many,—no wonder we don’t know what we want. For thousands of years, humans have sought
out guidance through religion, spirituality and higher powers. From the moment we’re born, our lives are
roughly mapped out for us. We learn the basics of being human; walking,
talking, right and wrong. We go to school, perhaps we go to university. We graduate… and then it’s time to enter
the real world. And for the first time, we’re on our own. No teacher to hold us accountable, no fellow
students to help us out, no grade to tell us whether we’re doing a good job or not. Roughly speaking, of course. What these guiding figures all have in common
is that they’re usually assigned to us, without us having much say in it. We don’t get to pick our biological parents,
or teachers in school or the students that attend our class. When you have a job, you don’t get to pick
your manager. Sure, you might be able to pick what school
you go to and what classes you choose to attend and what job you accept to some extent—but
there is no real freedom of choice. Except… isn’t there? We live in a time where we can access the
minds and work of thousands of people, living or dead; real or fictional; yet so many people
claim to not have anyone to look up to, that they don’t have any role models. I’m a huge advocate of the idea that role
models are important, regardless of what age you are, where in the world you are, or what
stage you’re at in life. We all need guidance of some sort; whatever
guidance might mean to you. Now, I like to split role models into two
categories: positive and negative, both being of equal importance and power. Oh, and, by the way, as I was researching
for this video Picture your future self as your northern
star. It’s where you want to be heading. A positive role model will help guide you
to get to your northern star, it’s what you’re running towards, it’s what you
want to become. A negative role model will guide you in the
opposite direction, it’s what you’re running away from, it’s what you don’t want to
become. The reason why having both positive and negative
role models is important is because we’re all different. You might be more motivated by thinking of
a good example of what you could be, while someone else might be more motivated by thinking
of a bad example of what they could be. Now, the idea of a negative role model can
seem strange to some. But see, knowing what we don’t want, can
help us figure out what we do want. It can be pretty powerful. We might also be able to think of someone
who represent both what we want to become, and what we do not want to become. The very same person might be both your positive
and your negative role model. Let’s say one of your parents is extremely
ambitious. Perhaps they’ve achieved a lot in life,
and you want to become that. At the same time, they might be very cold
hearted and abusive, something that you don’t want to become. Now, how do you find role models? I don’t think there’s one straight answer
to that question. But one thing’s for certain—there’s
no shortage of people to look up to, all you really need to do is to pay close attention. When you’re reading a book, watching a speech,
meeting someone in person, seeing a character in a movie, pay attention to how they make
you feel—I think that’s the very first step. The more you do that, the more you’ll be
able to identify what kind of guidance and influence you need in life, and on the contrary,
what kind of guidance and influence you don’t need. Now do remember that a role model is not who
you are trying to become quite literally, the role model is not your northern star. Your future self is your northern star, and
that’s who you are trying to become. The role models will just help put you in
the right direction.

Comments (100)

  1. I always get asked who shoots the videos… I shoot the videos. And edit them. Unless I'm in the shot and it's very obvious it's not on a tripod… it was me. Sometimes I'll use another dark haired girl to portray me in the video and no one notices. I guess that's why I get that question a lot.

  2. i never felt guilty … I hated that mytime is moving on fast and I had to go do things I didn't enjoy 🙁

  3. Living dead is not living take your day as your last and ask yourself what is important to and for you once realised do it at least every week put your bare feet on the grass breath fresh air and love and remember do not move out of the prison others may put upon you and then create your own 💎

  4. I thought this was Daniel cohn

  5. How did you …. how did you know I needed this ?

  6. can you tell me what is the name of your background song? It's so relaxing and calm. Please I need them

  7. You are such a wonderful my role model!

  8. Introverts get a bad rap in Western Society. Here's an introvert making truly helpful and thought provoking videos instead of the usual vacuous 'entertainment'. Good stuff Lana!

  9. I'm just tired…wish I was never born

  10. Thank you so much..

  11. I feel all of this

  12. You are soooo pretty. Like seriously emrata pretty

  13. I dunno if you have a hair tutorial , but yo I want one

  14. wow i needed this.everything really does happen in divine timing. sending love your way stay blessed baby

  15. Her speech is so true'..

  16. Do you know that you're beautiful ❤️

  17. Liked at 2:27
    Deep. Really deep. Thank u for this video

  18. I dont know how long I'll feel like this but i dont think it will ever stop , why did i click this video . Why did I get up today at all. I hand out my heart and it gets returned again and again more and more broken and beaten . Love is what I desire but holding onto it proves to be harder each time I find it .

  19. I’m sorry but this video is something about role models and I don’t know how it’s supposed to help people feeling stuck in life? Perhaps I didn’t get the message

  20. You ain't got all the answers Sway.
    – Kanye West

  21. this video hits so close to home. i wish i would've seen it a couple months ago tho..

  22. Thank you for representing us female filmmakers in such a strong, intelligent, well-executed way. 🙌🏻 grateful for you

  23. You’re pretty, that’s always a plus!

  24. Such beautiful video <3

  25. In short, find a good role model.

  26. Every day honey, every day I feel that!

  27. Not many talk about this.

    Either they are unaware/ unbothered/ in denial. Lols

  28. Она грузинка

  29. exactly what i am going through right now

  30. That funny moment when you’re a nihilist and you’re not worried about not achieving everything you dreamt of or the big achievements and you’re not working your ass off to leave behind your legacy to the world or to be remembered because you know nothing really matters in the end except finding joy in the present and being kind to others

  31. I cried to much this year. I got married in december 2018. The things were going good in start but by the time getting worse. I have blessed with a baby boy on October 2019 and my husband divorce me just after my baby birth. I don't know what to do. Going through a worst time of my life.

  32. Thank you. This was helpful.

  33. She is way too healthy to say such things ……
    If u know what I mean😑😑

  34. Great video thanks so much Lana

  35. ur voice is so soothing it makes the video that much better !!

  36. so i need gordon ramsey calling a stupid sandwich as my alarm in the morning

  37. I have social anxiety. My life is shit

  38. I want to marry you, and then have babies with you, and have a happy lonely family with you.

  39. Love the vid. I like the “northern star” analogy. I am from Beijing, and I have never seen a northern star. I got eye glasses, and migrated to Europe to see the northern star.

  40. I really needed to see this. thank you

  41. Thank you for the video

  42. Ppl gt stuck in life because they think 2 much, stop thinking and start doing, stop saying I'm gna go gym jst do it, stop thinking I'm start a course jst do it etc

  43. I love your mentality. 😻 you bring peace upon me. 💕💕💕

  44. Lana Lana Lana 😋💕💕💕💕💕🥰😻😻💕🐰😻😻💋💕💕💕

  45. Yes bc each day is work and routine

  46. Did not expect this to sound just like me

  47. Yeah Agree to your point, Role Models are there to keep us motivated and push beyond our limits and Yes keeping a negative role model pushes us towards the Success path, thinking of the fact of to never become a loser.

  48. Who else just doesn’t understand like there’s no other way to describe it but I’m just confused and can’t get out :/

  49. step 1: figure out who you want to be.

  50. You are very nice voice ❤

  51. I'll admit. If I'm not on my phone watching videos. I'm not sure what exactly I should be doing. Mainly past 5. I could read. But that's literally all I can think of.

  52. I know it's completly out of topic but……..your eyebrows are beautiful.

  53. I’m really so tired of living, my happiness is always temporary 🤦🏿‍♀️

  54. I’m 24 and still don’t know what I want to do with my life 🙁

  55. As Jordan Peterson might say, we need a little heaven to run towards, and a little hell to run from.

  56. I can relate to the beginning so much, I couldn't resist but to watch the full video. The struggle is Real, more open, we will in our speech, more the thought can rest

  57. Do we all have borderline depression and anxiety ? Cause I feel that I do .

  58. She should marry Nathaniel Drew.

  59. I'm here because of your beauty and looking adorable

  60. Have you ever had an injury on the back of your head? Concussions kind of which happens in sports or due to accidents.

  61. Exactly my current situation.

  62. Babe, where were you?
    You are living fully aren't ya???

  63. you really just described me the last few months

  64. That was beautifully done.

  65. I’m sorry to see that many sad people here. I have a way out for you, it is Jesus. You may think, “Oh, here’s another Christian girl trying to evangelize and sell me to Christianity but I’m not gonna fall for it”. Here me out please, I would NOT waste my time here writing this if this weren’t the truth. Just ask for help to Him, for He only is the way, the truth and the life. He has come to save us from our sins which are what separates us from the infinite God. God has become human and has died on a cross, has suffered the most crucial pain to ever imagine, just to save us and give us ETERNAL LIFE. Think about eternity, and what you will do after this life.. where you are going to be… Jesus has come to free YOU from your sin, to save you from hell which is the second death, but also from your emptiness, your sadness, your brokenness. If you don’t believe me, just ask God. Ask him if this is true. Don’t waste your life, for this is a gift from the Almighty.

    You are precious. So incredibly precious..
    You are LOVED by Him. He knew you before you were even born.
    You are not an accident, but you are here for a reason. God himself has died for you and rose again for YOU to be with Him. Just believe in His Son Jesus Christ and repent of your sins. You are welcome in His arms, in His love, for only His love will make you whole.

    If you want to insult me, or if you will tell me I’m a freak to believe in a God that “doesn’t exist” or in a Savior that never existed, if you want to tell me that I’m wrong, you are free to do it. but you will not change my mind nor help yourself in any way. You will not get rid of your internal hate and emptiness. Only He can. God bless you.

  66. Youtube recommandation starts to scares me ,that's exactly how I feel

  67. I’m starting off 2020 with depression.. it’s already ruined Christmas and New Years and it’s going to ruin valentines as well.. I’m so unwanted and unlovable.. idk what to do.. this hurts so bad but I guess I deserve this.. I want someone to talk to and love but I guess I don’t deserve that too💔😞

  68. Yes, I actually do that every other day.

  69. Yeah that is how I feel when Fortnite is down

  70. I have been feeling this way lately

    And you are so beautiful

    Sorry 🙂

  71. I feel like Bill Murray in fucking Groundhog Day

  72. Omg! You look like Kendall Jenner in the thumbnail!! YOU ARE SO PRETTYY!!💕💕

  73. Was this supposed to make me feel better? Because it didnt.

  74. She has a perfect face.

  75. 0:09 at that time my resolution goes down from 480p to 144p
    But I thought it's some time of creative work but after after few seconds I realized

  76. A completely predictable future is already the past

  77. Jesus loves you all ❤️ John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he sent his one and only son that whoever shall believe in him shall not perish but have eternal life”
    Jesus loves you and he stands at the door of your life and knocks. Will you invite him in ? He loves you so much! the first step is simply talking to him and believing in him

  78. Your role model is yourself 🙂

  79. Everyone who is reading this – be healthy, be happy, be YOU ❤

  80. I feel it so much 😭 i dont have a work 😭 i wana travel the worl leave my country i feel so sad 😭 like whats wrong with me i should be grateful for everything god gave me of course but i feel so sad im not living my real life and i dont why am i telling u this 😭😭😭😭 im sorry i should go

  81. Thank you very much to make videos like very inspiring….😊😊😊 I hope someday I meet you in personal..

  82. Unless you feel that same hell in your head and heart, I don't believe you can truly appreciate how difficult it is even just functioning on a basic level as a human being. The way you think and react to situations is hugely important but I also believe there is a biological reason why some people suffer from more serious, long-term depression.

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