How To Keep A Woman Interested In You

How To Keep A Woman Interested In You

Hey guys, welcome back to my channel. For those of you who are new, welcome! I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship
coach from the West Coast of Canada and today I want to share with you some of the easiest
ways that you can keep a woman interested in you when you’ve just started seeing each
other. Before we get started, as always, make sure
that you subscribe to my channel, if you haven’t already, and post all of your questions and
comments in the comments section below and I’ll be sure to get back to you, personally,
as soon as I can. Quick question, when you’re trying to spark
a woman’s interest, do you give her all of your attention? Or do you make her miss you by playing a little
hard to get? Take the poll and let’s see what the majority
is up to. In order for you to keep a woman interested
in you, we need to look a very specific component of attraction, and for women, one of the driving
forces of attraction is building an emotional connection. When you first meet a woman, and you’re
getting to know one another, it’s great to have similarities. Seeing if you have similar interests, hobbies,
taste in books, television, and movies, etc. That is all great. Sharing similar interests on these topics
is a great foundation upon which to build a friendship, but building an emotional connection
will aid in boosting attraction and contribute to longevity in a relationship. So how do you make the right kind of connection
with a woman that goes deeper than the surface? You do so by drawing parallels between your
lives, which can include your family, friends, motivations, and values, etc. These is the stimulus that lure women in to
your charm. Connections aren’t built on surface material,
they happen when we’re able to dig deep with people in a way that doesn’t seem pushy,
invasive or probing. Which has a lot to do with conversation, body
language and confidence. 1. Have the confidence to be yourself:
The best thing that you can do before you begin to make a connection with a woman is
to have the confidence to be yourself. Nothing says thirsty quite like trying to
please everyone. The need to be liked by everyone is a noble
aspiration, but an unrealistic one. In dating, one of the best qualities that
you can have in your arsenal is being somewhat self-assured, which means that you’re confident
in your character and abilities. Having a pleasurable, strong, and amazing
connection with someone, or anyone, is dictated by your relationship with yourself. If you are always trying to fit in and please
everyone around you, your real self might get lost along the way. So be yourself because the authentic version
of yourself is going to be the version of you that thrives and attracts the most genuine
interest from women. 2. Ask Open Ended Questions:
If you want women to open up to you and connect, you have to ask the right questions. Conversation is key here. When you’re trying to get to know a woman,
asking questions like, “what do you do for work?” is a great place to start. But where conversations remain on the surface
level is if it goes on to describe the facts about a person’s job. Say your girl is a nurse and you ask her what
hospital she works at, and then what floor, and/or specialization that she has. Instead, ask her why she got into nursing. Find out her reason for choosing that field
and you will get a clearer insight into this woman’s values and motivations in life. She will also feel more comfortable talking
and sharing with you when she feels like you are genuinely interested in her with your
unique line of questioning. Another great way to build connections is
to talk about your family and friends and comment on similarities. If she says something about how her best friend
is really into cross fit, or her friend is vegetarian, you could say the phrase, “that
reminds me of…” and then you draw a parallel to your life. Your response could look something like this,
“Oh, no way. My brother is really into crossfit. He’s always trying to make me try it.” With that being said, it’s important for
you to understand the idea of give and take. You want to give a woman your full attention
when you’re face to face as well as information, but what you don’t want to do is overdo
it, which is where a lot of men falter. You see, part of being confident is knowing
that attraction and keeping a woman interested in you takes time to achieve. If you want to learn more about keeping a
woman interested over text, head over to and get yourself a copy of my free Attraction
Building Handbook. That’s 3. Don’t Show All Of Your Cards:
The third way to keep a woman interested might seem like a complete contradiction to my last
point, but that is don’t show all of your cards. Yes, I want you to draw parallels between
your lives, but what I mean here is that you don’t have to give a woman a play by play
of your life right away. You can leave a little mystery to keep her
guessing. This will ensure that she keeps coming back
to get to know you more. When you’re just getting to know a woman,
it’s very important that you don’t scare her off. What I see a lot of men doing is putting the
horse before the cart and getting ahead of themselves and talking about future plans
with a woman even on the first date! This can be alarming to a woman. Last summer, a close female friend of mine
went on a Tinder date with a man who really creeped her out. She said that he was making comments about
valentine’s day plans for the two of them and even plans for the following month. They met face to face in August…. Valentine’s day is in February… this man
was jumping the gun. What would have been ideal here is if this
man took this relationship, or potential relationship, one day at a time and let the woman do a little
guessing about whether or not he was into her. That would have prompted my friend to chase
him and not reject him. Women don’t want you to give into them right
away. That takes away from getting butterflies in
anticipation of seeing someone, which is necessary part in building attraction. So yes, be a good conversationalist and make
a woman excited to talk and share with you, but don’t disclose all of your secrets or
engage in a heart to heart right off the bat. Work on making a connection that is somewhat
light hearted, which brings us to our next point. 4. Be playful:
And one of the best ways to avoid seeming desperate and to keep a woman interested in
you is to be playful. Keep all of your interactions exciting by
switching things up and being different. Be playful in your text messages, send a teasing
text to a girl that sounds something like this, “I saw a young girl sit on her juice
box at the park today and cry. Made me think of you the night we met ;” You
leave the door open for her to send you a witty response in return and instigate some
banter. And having witty banter is one of the best
ways to be playful and keep a woman interested in you. it’s like playing tennis. You serve the ball and she returns it and
then you both send it back and forth. This can be done over text and face to face. In a face to face setting, you can be playful
in your words and body language. You can tickle a girl to lighten the mood
and to flirt, you can also touch her when she’s laughing and enjoying herself so that
she will eventually associate those good feelings of laughter with being around you. These are all great techniques to make a strong
impact on a woman that makes her want to spend more time getting to know you. And that’s all I have for you today, YouTube. Remember to subscribe to my channel if you
haven’t already done so. That way you can stay up to date with my latest
videos! As always, thanks for watching and I’ll
see you in my next video!

Comments (99)

  1. Kate, do you have an Instagram?

  2. Hi kate is it hard to get a girlfriend?

  3. Okay! New hair! Digging the new look. Random: is it true that girls change up hair commonly after a break up? Have you heard of this before? Thanks

  4. I like your hair!

  5. this week was my first date with women and i give her all my secret well not all but the majority trying to be honest , why you didn't upload the video 1 day before :'(

  6. Hey kate i have sent u an email can u please check it!

  7. She is interested on me so what should I do next step how can I find out she is in that place love r what please tell me about it

  8. oh!!!no!!!back to brunet!!!!very good chanel!!!

  9. You are looking beautiful in this video…..

  10. Subscribed today ; got a relationship coach , imao kinda ready to face the girl on whom i had a crush . Thanks Kate for sharing your knowledge with us , really appreciate it , Love from India . ❤

  11. Ugh idk what I’m doing at all haha I can’t even get a girl to say hi

  12. Damn! Love the hair Kate, and as always, excellent video. Keep up the encouraging work!

  13. Hulk would love for Kate to Springs on me.

  14. How can i make my friend as a gf?

  15. They say ‘don’t ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask a fisherman’ but you’ve proved that analogy to be flawed. Your words are legit and I preach the same principles aswell. Glad to see a fellow Vic dating coach. Keep droppin the knowledge Kate

  16. There was a guy on a date next to me at a sushi bar today and he was trying to establish similarities with this girl but it seemed so superficial. In fact it would have been more interesting if he had other interests that she's not familiar with. He basically established that they were both boring people and the conversation kind of died out.

  17. Everyone. Turn your focus inwards. Be the best you that you can be. Only then will someone become and stay interested in you. Universal advice for anyone.

  18. Great advice. It works too. 🙂

  19. Can you please make a vid on “How to not get caught cheating”?

  20. What does it mean when a girl tells you I wanna die alone?

  21. You would want to put the horse before the cart…?

  22. Accumulate wealth,center your life in God and be the best version of yourself.That's the #1.

  23. I'm Broken, Half of me Works, I,m dominant around other males, The Alpha if you want to call it that, but become a Wimp around Woman, my childhood really stuffed me up. But I'm slowly coming to terms with been Single.

  24. Thank you gor the great advice. Said By The SOD of the south Cariboo. B.C proud Caribou strong.
    If you ever find time to watch one of my youtubes and like it. Please share for the struggle for followers is real. 😀😃😆

  25. what happens if I am the only one doing all of the talking and she's talking less

  26. Give her a genuine surprise.. She would fall for men 😎😍😅

  27. Wow the hair makes kate even more attractive.

  28. Hi Kate since watching your videos I have been meeting more women which is great. However I'm 50 and I seem to be meeting women in there 30 and 40 s can you give me some advice on how to meet women more my age I'm not a big club guy thanks Mike

  29. Kate I really like your message, we as men should look at relationships as a marathon and not a sprint, being patient and confident

  30. You're beautiful Kate, love your voice too.

  31. Gawd damn Kate your pretty hot 😍

  32. I tried to download the free book of your's I even kept my email address but it didn't worked !!!!! Please help….

  33. Make a video about how to connect with u

  34. There a girl i might like but i think its 2 late? And i think she has a bf.

  35. Hey Kate are you mixed race by any chance? You look like a few (amazing-looking haha) people I know. But you also look like you could be full caucasian too.

  36. Thank you for the advice and I have a deeper relationship and want her still interested in me

  37. you look and speak insanely similar to Dakota Johnson… and btw keep up your nice videos!!!

  38. it's been a week since I've offered this women that I really like and she like me, a way to talk outside of work (no time and privacy) by texting.. she smiled and said "when I have time" ( based on what she told me, i believe her )well, still no number exchange but her interest in me seems to be growing since then. I'm in a relationship (unnerving I know) and I think she is too! could that be the hold-off? we do like each other no doubt about it. is there such thing as friends first then lover later?

  39. TIAMO LOvAngeL <3

  40. Keep a woman interested by going all-in or playing hard to get…

    Somewhere inbetween, maybe? There is definitely some middle ground. I think both extremes show immaturity.

  41. Just have to say loving the videos. My wife and I have been separated and she ended up with a bf at the same time she was telling me she was still so much in love with me. Well 3 months have passed. I moved to her city and within the week of me moving here she has now filed for divorce and got engaged on our wedding anniversary. She has literally on see this guy 6 times bc he lives in another state. How do I get her to come back I find it impossible that she has changed her mind in a short period of time. Just a little over a month ago we intimate again while she had this bf. I don't know what to think or how to proceed. We were married for 18yrs

  42. Alright, I really need help here. Me and this girl are I guess…ghosting? Like I'll spend a month or more getting over her and shell message me on facebook, we'll talk and all these feelings come back. Then theres a time a few months back where she gets really close to me (invades my personal space) when our friends gather and when I turn around and take a few steps she grabs my arm to get my attention. So I look up what those means, and it pretty much says she likes me right? So a few weeks I ask her to a date and she turns me down saying she wants to focus on her schooling, but if the right guy can impress her shell think about dating. Soo really confused here and I dont know if shes just really friendly or am I missing something or misunderstanding things. And yes, I like her.

  43. Hey Kate, this girl always ask me what's new and I tell her what's new about me but when I ask her she's always saying nothing. I ask her what's she doing she says nothing. Lol. Conversation are so short sometimes. But she does text me that she likes me and love me. We are intimate too. Im confuse why our conversations are so short. Should I be worry she's hiding something?

  44. I,have a girl,that's just a friend for,now i would love to start to,date her but I'm not sure on how to,go,about asking her out… We tease each other all the time and make each other laugh.. I,just need some ideas / advice

  45. how to act when your dating with your crush for the first time? what to say and how to drive the conversation?

  46. like your hair but you look even nicer a dark brunette 😉

  47. I am kind of big introvert.. So sometimes it becomes so hard for me to start conversations.. Any solutions?

  48. So I went to prom with this girl that I liked a lot and her friends told me to make a move on her so I kissed her before I dropped her off. A couple days later I asked a friend of mine to ask her what she thinks of me, which I don’t think is that good of an idea, and he told me she said she wasn’t looking for a relationship as she got out of one 4 months ago but thinks I’m a great guy. I was pretty hurt cuz I wanted to ask her to be my girlfriend. What do you think I should do? Should I stop talking to her or should I try to hangout with her and tell her how I feel about her?

  49. Your face is smooter than my phone's display, haha.

  50. How do I keep a woman that I’m already in a relationship with interested in me?

  51. I moved to a town near by my ex-girlfriend and she wished me happy birthday after a two years of separation, is there any clue there

  52. Almost everyone is looking for “committed relationship.” Most people sense that this is what they need, and people talk and read about “relationship” incessantly. But for all our talk about “commitment,” we are sabotaged by our assumptions before we begin. We assume that the single ingredient that we need for “relationship,” the one thing it cannot do without, is romance. But in fact, the essential ingredients for relationship are affection and commitment. If we look clearly, we begin to see that romance is a completely different energy system, a completely distinct set of values, from love and commitment. If it is romance that we seek, it is romance that we shall have—but not commitment and not relationship.

  53. I really like what Kate said for the #1 reason to keep a woman interested in a guy, "be yourself!"

  54. Love that blonde hair, Kate! Makes you look even more attractive.

  55. This is how the comment section on this channel goes. Kate: guys don't act needy and desperate. Guys: send Kate a zillion comments that are needy and desperate.

  56. Great tips! You are too cute

  57. I've been told repeatedly that I'm unapproachable and once that I was terrifying. I wear often a leather biker vest and chain wallet and told often I'm handsome. My question is besides smiling more should I change my appearance so that I'm not scary looking or do women find this trait attractive but intimidating?

  58. Yo Kate! I started talking to this girl in my Tu/Th class and got her number like the second week. I don’t see her very much other than those days, but I feel like she’s just as interested, however, i don’t talk to her other than those days. Should i be texting her more to keep the momentum going? Or should I keep playing it slow? Im not trying to be pushy, but at the same time i dont want her to lose interest

  59. Hi Kate! Love your videos. Been learning a lot and good things are happening. But here's my question: I live in a very small little beach town in Costa Rica, and yes, it's pretty awesome. Even though it's really small, there are a lot of beautiful, amazing women here, but I haven't found one yet that I really want to pursue and make my girlfriend, so I'm just enjoying talking to lots of different girls and improving my skills in that area. But since it's such a small town I'm hesitant to make a move and try to hook up with any of them because it's such a small town and everybody knows everybody and the last thing I want is to get a reputation as a player or womanizer. I'm fine with being patient, not hooking up with girls just because I can, to me the most important thing is my reputation and taking other people's feelings into account. So I guess my question is twofold: 1) What is a good way to tell a girl you've been dating that it's not going to work out while staying her friend, and not have there be any bad feelings or awkwardness, especially when you know you're going to be seeing her a lot and will probably be hitting on her friends and/or aquantainces in the near future? And 2) In general what's a good way to "play the field" without getting a bad reputation when you live in a place where everybody knows everybody, and news of your personal business can very quickly get out on the "coconut hotline"? Thanks for making great videos and keep up the good work!

  60. 5:51 lol that is such an oddly specific example

  61. Kate…keep this look!

  62. There’s this girl in my gym who usually works out pretty close to me like always and I’m pretty interested in her but then again I’m a pretty shy dude and I know not to disturb someone while their working out.
    What do I do Kate?

  63. I want to spend more time getting to know YOUUUU :O))

  64. Kate, YOU , are JUST TO FREEKING PRETTY to watch…YOU are SO SO PRETTY !!You have one of those  "love at first sight" faces !!

  65. Can you do a vid on how to keep her interested on the long run?

  66. Kate Spring..the cutest female astrologer on youtube. When my new movie Thunder Rush goes BIG..I'm coming back for that phone number and we going places :o))

  67. This girl is very seriously serious

  68. I keep seeing the PUA guys show up in comments of their female counterparts to talk shit. Who made them PUA's? Boys have to lie and manipulate for sex. Men seduce women by being themselves.

    Her common sense advice, flirt, be in the moment w/here. There is no one size fits all for men or women but all least the women making vids are honest. Those PUA videos are hilarious. Being open to her advice isn't misleading. PUA's tell you to peacock, you take that seriously (😂) Yet her saying, be cool,relax is somehow wrong.

    A man should always dress to impress in all you do. Learn new things to have interesting conversation. Not just about yourself, btw. Listen to understand, not reply. Its okay to have a contrary opinion. Women enjoy debate as well, in fact it may offer opportunity for flirting. Example, She is a Rep, You're a Dem, you could say, I did get a feeling you like to put handcuffs on people. (laugh, wink) idk. Thats off the top of my head. What can I say, at least take the shot.

    Keep making your videos. I admit I only half watch for advice. I do study your marketing, channel outreach, and social media strategy. Congrats on showing consistent growth. That's what I study here, lol. I wish you more success.

  69. Asking different types of non-standard questions, playful banter and being genuine. Always works for me. If you can improve her life in many ways she’ll be with you for life.

  70. Love you as awesome you tuber Kate you save me

  71. what if she is not replying to my messages regularly

  72. I sometimes show interest, sometimes plays hard to get. It depends… I have always had easier to attract those women I am not so interested in, maybe because I don't show so much interest.

  73. Be yourself? Ok so if myself is currently not able to attract a women because I lack the confidence, social skill, and game, then I assume you mean; BE YOURSELF AS THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF… self improvement comes first men!

  74. is this ashley olsen?

  75. What color is your hair black Brown blond they all look good

  76. This was great information you are helping me get through rough times understanding what I should be doing more of, thank you Kate!

  77. How's this for a secret…be your best you and keep working on improving it…if she isn't interested…you can't "make" or "keep" her interested 🙂 it will be just one big act and then she will discovered you are just a fake 🙂 then she will actually hate you…trust me, you don't want a woman to hate you!

  78. You look like Cara Delevingne

  79. am I the one who is listening? thanks for the advice Kate, keep it up. it's too bad you're married and our paths never crossed. I have to be honest, you are Gorgeous!

  80. I started seeing one girl , initially we had spark but later she lost her interest so how can I get her back?

  81. Damn Kate, you are absolutely killing us with your beauty. Jesus.

  82. Can you make a video on long distance relationship… they can always interest on men's?

  83. Kate Canadian movie has been submitted to the Cannes Film Festival in France! I will let you know when to pack your bags once I get a call back from them in April :o)))

  84. It’s spring!! Now where’s Kate 👀

  85. Your beauty is one of a kind.

  86. Keep them interested in you by looking in them eyes?

  87. You are superhot kate😉😘

  88. I think this women knows what she's doing, I'm already in love with her,lol.

  89. OK I'm posting my comment and question now. Kate can I take you out?

  90. I appreciate that you would put the focus on the relationship. That's where it ought to be. Too many people focus on the outside when I think it ought to be on getting to know the inside person. You make some reference to that, but you also sort of put your focus on the outside. Not that it's bad. But people hopefully are multi-dimensional. I would appreciate if you were more attuned to that aspect of humanity. But I like your suggestions. They are fab.

  91. What is this?!?! She talks so much and is still sexy and also seems intelligent and balanced! I thought it was just a legend! Lol

  92. Hey I could really use your help and coaching to find some one

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