I definitely think that girls have more pressure
to like make themselves look better online than guys. We’re
worrying about our image all the time, like at school too. Like you always want to look
good. I think girls care about their image way more
than guys do. Like guys are all about being cool, but being cool for girls comes from their image
more than it comes for guys. If a girl posts a sexy picture, guys are going
to look at it. It’s inevitable. I have a guy friend and he will never post
a picture of himself if he has a pimple on his face.
I definitely think that they care, but they don’t want to make it seem like they do.
I won’t put up a photo of me just like being stupid and looking stupid. But I’ll put
up a photo if I think it’s funny, and I don’t know if a girl would do that. They’re
trying to prove something to both people. Like I look good in this picture, or I have
a lot of friends or something like that. No matter if you’re a girl or a guy, you’re
going to get judged and you’re going to judge other people. I feel like you think
that people will judge you more they actually will.
I think online is an easy way for people to judge other people, because you have that
safety net of being in front of a screen, not face to face.
I would think like teens can probably judge other people, maybe even behind their back
most of the time I would say. But usually when you’re posting something online, you’ll
say something probably like nice, but you might not even mean it.
Also I think judging happens more with women, because a guy can personally say … I don’t
really like go on a woman’s profile and say, oh they’re duck-facing, ew. That’s
not what I personally do. I think it’s like, you get the shirtless
guy photos where it’s like the mirror pics. And then, you know, all of us go oh my god, or whatever.
And he’s like in the towel with his shirt off and he’s like in the mirror. Like “Selfie”
and it’s like … then you get the comments about what he’s doing and what he looks
like and why he’s doing, then you get the back and forth of like [unintelligible].
I think those are the ones that get the most from girls.
Like they’re getting attention because sometimes in the description he’s like, oh my god
I’m ugly. I feel like you’re fishing for compliments.
Here’s an example. I wore this humungous afro to school and I thought I looked horrible
in it. And then I took a picture and I posted it on Facebook and I got so much feedback.
I was like, wow. I was like, I think I look horrible. But thank you so much.
They’re like oh my gosh, you great with that hair. I was like really?
Thank you. So it boosted my confidence. I thought maybe I should start rocking my afro
more often. There’s absolutely a double standard in
every aspect of life I think, with boys and girls online, absolutely.
Guys wouldn’t say certain things if girls didn’t say them first, because like a girl
saying it kind of opens a door, like this is out there and so now I can start talking
about it. But like my personal feeling, if girls weren’t so mean to each other, guys
wouldn’t be mean to girls as much. Some guys try to play the macho guy role,
without necessarily like posting pictures of himself, like flexing their muscles or
something. But at the same time, like trying to act really
cool. It’s much more subtle but it’s still there.
I wish everyone could not really care so much about what everyone else is doing. I mean
why does it matter? Be who you want to be.