🌸 Self Care Tips When Feeling Stuck, Down, and Uninspired

🌸 Self Care Tips When Feeling Stuck, Down, and Uninspired

[ Music ] Hey guys To be uninspired, to be creatively blocked, to be unmotivated is not a sign of weakness – as I’ve previously attributed, and I still, part of me still kind of attributes into that. It’s what it means to be human, right? smile to stay grounded to push through the absent flows and the highs of those of life because life comes in season’s , life comes in cycles it’s a part of the process and it’s part of the journey that we should learn to embrace and not to fight as much so in this video I want show you with you guys 6 things I did to help me come out of this most recent – this creative funk. Before we get started, Thank you so much to Skillshare – for sponsoring this video Skillshare is my favourite online learning community – and site I frequently went – when I feeling stuck or need any some of inspirations They currently offering the first time online sign up 2 months – all free as we just said, The link is down below Let’s get started! Ohh~ The great outdoors – It was my girlfriend’s bachelor weekend In Palm Springs couple weeks ago so I took that as a opportunity to take the solo drive – to the desert from LA It’s not like a 1 and a half hour drive Doesn’t matter if you go outside for a walk Like me right now, moving myself from my safe space And going out outdoors for a nice walk a nice stroller in my neighbourhood Or taking accessible drive or making a day trip out to nature – To the mountains, to the desert, to the ocean – whatever supposes to you There’s so many benefits to being under the sun – So you can get some vitamin D, Breathing some fresh air When you actually outside, when you physically remove yourself – From your save tree house of trust, That is your bedroom Magical things happen to you, because you forget that – I don’t know into me Sometimes I forget that There’s a world out there, it’s not just in here And in my space, or the whole weekend The act – leaving your space to go out to into the world Is also very symbolic in it itself. Taking time to unplug and taking time to wander Also helps your brain to take time to unplug and wander and – Magical beautiful things happen when you let your mind wander Into the deeper, darker purposes of your brain To be like – Okay what are the things that I telling myself “I don’t have time to think about”, “where are the hard questions I’ve been avoiding?” “what are the things that I’ve been telling I’ll get to later?” These things naturally should come out When you give yourself the same space in the environment and the time To be like – “You do you.” As I walk around and wander , ” you can walk around and wonder here too .” consume that content , whole hearted-ly and just guilt free , just shame free just do what you wanna do – watch that movie, binge watch that show, watch that Korean drama – Watch all youtube videos – But , do it intentionally . “How” you ask , I’ll get into it in a second. So when I was driving to and from Palm Springs, I’m just kinda reflecting on – What I’ve been doing with my channel , with work and everything that That has to do with my life and how, I’m at this place where I feel either I could be – doing better or I”m not doing enough or you know It’s like a healthy dose of a Check-In with yourself – It’s not like badgering like “Oh my god why aren’t you doing more?” So like – “Hey, like why you feel this way?” “Can you do better? What can you do better on?” 1 thing I came back into was I really want to take content creation more seriously. I think I have been taking it pretty seriously for the past 2 years since I started But I wanted to take it to the next level – I wanted to be able to take it to the next level That mean better in front of the camera to be better behind the camera And requires me to learn more about films, videos and different styles I guess I grew up within a mentality that to consume things with content means a waste of time With that I tend to go for long periods of time without doing something I have to prior myself of something and I’m end up binging it and I feel horrible because I would stay awake Until 5 AM watching and then the suns out and I’m like ‘What am I doing with my life?’ I did that with ‘Moon Lovers:Scarlet Heart Ryeo’, It’s such a good drama which it does, If you guys looking for more Korean drama’s – not sure if you guys are, not sure If it’s the most productive thing to do – But , if you do it intentionally as you’re watching it; what I mean by that is that you’re aware You’re fully present, You’re watching it to watch the course and to enjoy cause why would you want something you don’t enjoy? But you’re also watching it with a critical eye which means We’re fully present and you’re watching to see – okay you know I asked myself ‘why do I like this?’ ‘What is keeping me hooked?’ ‘Is it their acting? Is it directing? Is it the camera angles? Is it the script? ‘Is it The story?’ If it were up to me, what would I do differently? “What would I do better? can I make it better? How would I make it better”- And so, In general Being present and being intentional with your time because our time is finite With that being said, You shouldn’t go to the other extreme like me and just – completely deprive yourself and then end up binging. Balance is key, my friend! *music* Carve out time to do what you’ve been meaning to do Whether it’s taking that art class, learning that language, taking that cooking class, taking that really special and fun fitness class I dunno, I just got so excited about the fitness thing… For me, the two things: The first one I briefly mentioned is I want to hone in and I want to improve on my craft. So what I’ve been doing is I’ve been looking up a lot of classes on Skillshare. For example, there’s one by Sophia Chang (Not the Sophia Chang blogger, not the Sophia Chang influencer, the Sophia Chang illustrator.) Um she’s a designer. She has a class on Instagram; like how to… What is it? “Analytics and Authenticity on Instagram: Crafting Your Digital Presence” So the class with Sophia Chang is learning more about the business side of social media And there’s also a bunch of filmmaking classes and how-to-edit classes, like editing, film editing, video editing class I’m also really excited to take (those classes) because for as long as I’ve been editing videos I kind of just feel, and kind of just do things and learn as I go and I feel like if I learn -If I learn from a professional how to do things the right way it might save me a lot of time -It might not, I don’t know, but it’s worth a try, it’s worth looking into. The second thing I wanna learn more about is traditional Chinese culture. So with that, I’ve been–(bumps plant) ooo, lemme just show you guys the books (gravelly voice) ooookay These couple of books that I got- One of ’em is the Art of War; I’m pretty sure many of you guys know about this There’s another one Hong Lou Meng, which is A Dream of Red Mansions. This is one of the four classics, along with Journey to the West with the monkey king. There’s Tao Teh Ching, this is by Lao Tzu. And there is this Exemplary Women of Early China I’m pretty sure most of you guys don’t have an interest in learning about traditional Chinese culture But! The, the point of this is to share with you guys: like if you are interested in anything, in any one or two or couple of things Run with it! Try to go as wide and try to go as deep as you can So as wide is I got a book by Lao Tzu who’s like, yanno, one of the wisest dudes in the world I got a book on traditional Chinese women, I got a fiction book I got a book on war strategies. Try to go as wide as you can, but at the same time, the depth is that you’re learning so much about this one thing that you want to learn about. So, again, maybe you cannot relate with the wanting to learn about Chinese culture But! It’s the… It’s the way you go about learning about something It’s kind of like… *gestures* yeah I just explained it *laughs* *music* Things Are What You Make of Them: Life Advice for Creatives This is from Adam J.K. I *love* his stuff It’s honestly so cool. He has this book that -He has one of those journals that you can destroy. One Page Every Day? Something like that; where you (almost inaudible) Do I have another one? (gravelly voiced waaaaaa) Oh! actually I do! Pick Me Up, here. This one is called Pick Me Up and then, lemme just flip to a random page Uhhhhhh “Sometimes you just want to scream and cry, but you can’t. Other times you totally can! Find yourself a safe, private space to let it out. You are an *amazing* and *emotional* person who *feels* feelings. This can be annoying sometimes but it’s also your secret power. Keep being human.” Dude, I love this guy. And it’s soo relevant to what we’re talking about! “I don’t always know where I’m going, but that’s never really stopped me before.” So this is just -I love his doodling style. I’ll flip through over the B-Roll (inaudible) But anyway Things Are What You Make of Them: Life Advice for Creatives -This came at the perfect time uh, considering this video is talking about self-care and what to do when you feel down and uninspired Adam J Kurtz, his stuff is honestly amazing I highly recommend it It definitely helped me feel less alone, ok to be human, ok to feel, and to feel safe. Like safe space, like I’m in a safe space with this. And that I’m understood. The second book that I wanna talk about is this Screenplay: the Foundations of Screenwriting This is just to show you guys that whatever it is that interests you, go *deep* Go wide and go deep. If it really interests you, you will want to learn as much as you can about everything. Honestly, I’m probably not gonna ever write a script. I dunno, who knows, probably not. Um, but, I am interested in the directing aspect, the producing, and maybe even the acting aspect. So if I’m interested in thooose aspects, then I should know at least the basics of screenwriting. Reading this can also help me write better scripts for *gestures at camera* you guys!! My YouTube video Even though, it’s, you know, maybe never gonna write a movie but it could help There’s always nuggets of wisdom in things all around us and if we’re willing to be open to learning we totally can. *music* What I mean by try “new” things, is to do something that you haven’t done in a while. Maybe, you used to wake up really early and then you haven’t done that in a while so you wanna get back to that Maybe you used to journal a lot more frequently and you haven’t done that so you wanna go back to that Maybe you used to….. work out more consistently and now you don’t *laughing* These are all things that I wanna get better on BTW Give yourself permission, practice acceptance. Accept the fact that you’re human and that you feel and that it’s totally fine. And that you know it will get better because that’s kind of the cycle. When anything reaches an extreme, it will turn around. Also, find that balance between the extremes: walking the middle path. It’s a huge principle in Buddhism, that I struggle with so hard! Umm you know it’s either extreme productive mode or extreme potato mode but like but what about this why not be a productive potato. I made a video about that look right there. *music* Whenever I’m stressed about something, or whenever I’m just like freaking out or like I-I don’t feel good about something I will flip it around and be like Ok. If I’m stressing about work, I’ll tell myself: I’m so grateful that I get to do what I love. I’m so grateful that I get to wake up every day and just do something that I find so fulfilling. Or if I’m stressed that my mom is just like *nagging* me, I’ll be like: I’m so grateful that I have a mom who cares so deeply about me that she’s willing to point out my flaws, and that she’s willing to ask me the hard questions even if I don’t want to listen, right? When it’s like I don’t want to think about it. Doing these small things really helped improve my mental state and the quality of my life because instead of going to sleep stressed, instead of waking up stressed Immediately I’m able to catch myself and be like ok, You’re stressed about this, why not turn it into something you’re grateful for? And generally when that happens, if I do this consistently, I’m flying above the cloud. I’m just *whew* So happy! But when I don’t do it, which has been the reality for the past two weeks cuz I’ve been travelling a lot, I find myself just so much more down and lethargic and like not having it. And so making this video was great because it’s a great reminder for me to be more consistent with writing in my five-minute-journal. Soooooooo with all of that… (singsongy voice) Thanks for watching! I love you guys so muuuch! I keep touching my plant… I’m sorry. Um. Give my plant a huuug. Then give you guys a huuuug. Ok bye.

Comments (100)

  1. This video was amazing!
    You deserve so many more subscribers 💜

  2. Watches video everyday

  3. My brain has been really rather overwhelmed and negative lately and I needed the gratitude flip reminder thank you :))

  4. Love this video. Thanks so much for these tips xx

  5. Actually, you and your video's are a safe space for me, because I always end up feeling loved, supported and understood and that I'm okay as a human being and that I can make something of my life despite my flaws 🙂

  6. Maaan (or wait, giiirl) you're my new "intentional watching" provider. Like you, I tend to completely deprive myself of things because I tend to not be skilled at balance and overdo it and I have a history of unhelpful YouTube binging (who doesn't a this point). But lately I've been leaning more towards "it's a tool, it's up to you how you use it" and then I admitted to myself that I'd like there to be a bridge between my humor and my self-care aspirations and up pops you in my suggestions.
    Already a fan of your presentation style and use of memes and also, I once wrote a term paper on The Prestige, comparing the movie to the book and Chris Nolan used to be my favorite director of all times, although I have since moved on to not keeping favorites as much. Anyhow, coolest, funnest while still educational channel I have stumbled onto in a while, thanks for existing on the interwebs!

  7. More of these please! ♥️

  8. Omg self care channel?? This is exactly what I need. I’m going into my second year teaching and I have the bad habit of throwing myself into work and focusing so much on my students needs I take less good care of myself. I genuinely love my job so during the school year I barely noticed how far I let myself go. Usually around November I start feeling the exhaustion and fatigue. Last year I had some SERIOUS brain fog in the Winter.

    My goal this year is to be way more intentional with my self care so that I can fully enjoy the job I’m so passionate about even more! I’ll definitely be keeping up with your videos!

    Side note: Moon Lovers Scarlett is my jam. I cried like a baby throughout 😂😂

  9. I studied Chinese and Japanese Art History in college, so I want to read all those books you showed and I added them to my GoodReads!!

  10. that last bit about your mom was really really helpful. thank you for this, all of it

  11. Just what i needed

  12. That thing where you take what you're stressed about and point out what you're grateful for is one of the BEST things I've learned to soothe my anxiety. Like, the amount of peace that ends up coming over me when I'm done going through those things I'm grateful for…amazing. Love your channel!!!!

  13. Love your book recommendations! Hope to see even more in the future 🙂

  14. I agree so much with the third point!! It's my current goal (especially bc I'm in vacation) and your energy is super inspiring

  15. How are you so positive? <3

  16. 6:35 Though getting to know how Chinese culture has influenced the world is interesting.

  17. I really enjoyed this, thank you ❤️

  18. thank you so much !! I really needed this right now im totally stuck in a funk but I think this gave me the little push to go do something.

  19. Thank you so much for this video – so needed and so helpful 📖😍

  20. I ,too, needed this. Funny how these things show up in our lives right when we need them. I just found myself in a funk this week, no real rhyme or reason, and it’s frustrating and disheartening to feel so down. I know what I need to do but finding the motivation to do just the simplest things is sometimes so overwhelming. Thanks for this video. I really love your channel, Rowena. 💕


  22. I’m interested in traditional Chinese culture

  23. Rowena I think so highly of you and I wish you all the best. This is one of my favourite youtube channels.

  24. Can you make a video of how to organize and decorate bc that is a thing that atleast helps me to feel better

  25. Thanks for the tips, and for writing them in the description ☺

  26. Okpp I have to say, that I’m new to you channel and I don’t know why I never found you before 😮 You are so amazing !!!! Thanks for the great advice 😍!!!

  27. Found your channel through searching “self care”. Just wanted to say thank you for making these videos, been binge watching your videos and it’s a breath of fresh air especially when i’m going through a rut. Keep up with the good work! I’ll look forward to more videos from you!

  28. It’s genuinely amazing realizing how this little Youtube community is beautifully growing. When I scrolled through the comments, I was inspired by how we all share our stories and moved by such an empowering and creative influencer. This is my safe and happy place on the Internet. This channel has become part of my growth as someone who aspires to do better. I love this community I am in. Thank you so much, Rowena.🍃😭💓☺️

  29. Great video and ideas thank you Rowena! I like that book, will order it for myself, love the design of it, thank you for sharing!

  30. Scarlet Heart Ryeo was an emotional roller coaster ride. I think I need to stop getting so immersed in Korean dramas!

  31. Thanks for all the sweet help Rowena❤️❤️

  32. the quality of this video is astounding

  33. Hé Rowena, i Just discoverd your channel. I have to write my thesis and… It's hard to Stay motivated. I really Just want to run away…from IT all. I do run away by watching a lot of YouTube…but now i have you and ur video's. I do my choirs and study with your video's on in the background. Youre my little motivation buddy. Thank u girl. I feel less alone now. X!

  34. Thank you for this ❤

  35. This video is so cute, you make me smile 🙂

  36. Love the way you did this video 🙂 xx

  37. I just came across this video. Very good encouragement and positive insight. Liked and Subbed. 💜

  38. Thank you so much for making this video. It was everything I needed to hear right now and I find your channel so inspiring

  39. You always inspire me to want to invest time in my other interests and be more productive but I am so damn TIRED all the time and I feel like I don’t have the energy to do all the things I want. I’ll go to read a book after work and find I’m too checked out to focus and get anything out of it. How do you energize yourself to dedicate time not working to self improvement?

  40. You're my shame free content consumption ❤

  41. Scarlet Heart:Ryeo is SOOO GOOD!!! I cried so much!!!😭💕

  42. Wow, amazing book recommendations. I just love the sound of your tones in Chinese! 👍🏻✅😀

  43. i really love your videos, they make me feel so motivated and i always gain something from them. thank you for always producing such wonderful videos, and for always inspiring me 🙂

  44. All the 'new' things you talk about are certainly my new things I've been trying to go back to 😂❤️ I love your videos they make me feel safe and encouraged to face change, a change that in a big percentage means going back to positive attitudes/ habits I used to have but for some reason dumped
    THANK YOU ❤️

  45. Came here because Ashely's Lens recommended you and I love it!

  46. seriously after watching your videos i always feel so happy and inspired to be living my best life. you honestly are filled with such an incredible energy! thank u for being u 🙂

  47. YouTube rudely unsubscribed me. No wonder I haven’t been seeing your videos…

  48. hello! I love your videos! I am new here! Can you do a motivational video for people who are taking exams to get into grad schools! Can you just give us some inspirational words and motivational and partially threatening pep talk? Thanks love!

  49. You’re so cute )

  50. omg I love your channel!•

  51. your videos are so refreshing

  52. I ripped out the " I don't always know where i'm going but it's never really stopped me before" pages and hung them up in my medicine cabinet so i see them every time i brush my teeth. It's made me a happier person!

  53. Stop rambling so much just get to the points

  54. Thankyou for making this video. Helped me 🙂

  55. Scarlet heart was by far the best Kdrama I’ve ever seen 😭

  56. I always know I should get up and go out but I don't want to get out of bed but just cry and sulk lmao

  57. 6:39 I'm actually really interested in traditional Chinese culture, I think it would be really cool if you made a video about it!

  58. Every time I wander onto one of your videos, I feel my head clicking back into place and I feel ready to move forward. Thanks.

  59. the art of war is kind of cliche, but the Tale of the Stone is amazing, i recommend the translation Penguin sell, it's a few quid each book on kindle but it's so huge it's worth it, it's 100% gripping, i can't believe a modern style novel was written in china half a millenium ago

  60. Small wins❤️❤️❤️❤️

  61. I NEVER feel like studying, even when I ABSOLUTELY NEED to….I tried pomodoro and other techniques…nothing works…I'm just not doing anything. Once I start doing something, I do it for 10 minutes and then I get bored and get to YouTube or TV or PUBG…I bought a couple of story books and novels but haven't even started reading ONE. I'm just bored of everything that I loved to do. Idk what's going on with me.

  62. Within 30 secs I decided to subscribe 🙂

  63. I love oriental phylosophy!!! please, talk more about that. I sometimes practice Qi Gong exercises. Can you make a video of your Qi Gong exercise practice…?

  64. I love oriental phylosophy!!! please, talk more about that. I sometimes practice Qi Gong exercises. Can you make a video of your Qi Gong exercise practice…?

  65. it's awesome that you are fair and you teach us that nobody is perfect. most people shows themself as perfectly following their plans, healthy diet and being fit and getting up at 5 am. i really appreciate this, you are one of a kind ❤💜💙💚💛

  66. Omg I love you ♥️ when I’m in a funk your videos help me out so much 😩 Thank you for taking the time to share your tips

  67. One Minute in. I just want to say that your eyeshadow suits you like soooooo much!!!

  68. i always rewatch your video cause it make me happy and help me healing ❤ thankyou 🙌🙆‍♀️

  69. I actually wold love you to talk more about chinese (or korean) culture because I have no clue and it sounds interesting 😀

  70. My gosh Rowena, you are honestly the most loveliest person!! I have started watching your videos recently but it has definitely helped me change my mindset and become more motivated (from an ex couch potato!) You are so amazing and I am loving your videos. Thank you for the inspirations!

  71. Your brain works just as overtime as mine does, and for the past month I've been feeling so depressed and unmotivated about my life and my future despite having things pretty well put together. Your videos have inspired me to organise my mind a bit better. Bless your soul and all your future children you lovely person.

  72. Hello!! Just saw your videos yesterday and I was gonna say, I like your style so so much and your authenticity. I'm also studying Tao Te Ching and The Art of War, instead of reading these two original books, I found using other multimedia tools help me learn better, such as watching videos and lectures. For Tao Te Ching, I highly recommend the lecture given by a Taiwanese professor, Shiqiang Zeng, 曾仕强, who just passed away few weeks ago: (, you can find his videos either on YouTube or Bilibili, And for Sun Zi Bing Fa 孙子兵法, I am currently watching a documentary created in the 80s, , very well-made and I can personally learn a lot out of it. Hope it helps!! Thanks for sharing!!!

  73. youre a very smart beautiful young woman xo

  74. I really love your channel, you're very informative and its very helpful and inspiring. Keep being you!

  75. Your videos are so incredibly helpful and they feel so conversational. Thank you so much for uploading amazing and useful content! I'll definitely be a fan for life.

  76. Yo! I needed that hug! Thank you!

  77. What's the name of the book in the beginning???

  78. Just the beginning I like. Not judge the fact that u are lazy. Shit u are human and not a machine.

  79. Just the beginning I like. Not judge the fact that u are lazy. Shit u are human and not a machine.

  80. I’m honestly so grateful for you!!! ☺️☺️☺️🧡

  81. Also, eyeshadow colour looks AMAZING on you!!!!

  82. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  83. the energy that surrounds you and your videos are so nice. it even reflects in the comment section… there is so much good in the world we do not see 🙂

  84. Now i am addicted for this wonderful channel

  85. love this❤️ stay human.

  86. hey, really beautiful video!!!
    could you tell me what that song, carrying your points is called?

  87. I really love the way you do your eye makeup! can you show us how you do it?

  88. Such a helpful video 🥰 thank you so much for sharing 💆🏻‍♀️💖

  89. I'm so happy that I found you! Your channel is beautiful Rowena.

  90. Dear Rowena, thank you so so so much for sharing your voice in such important topics. Every time I watch a video of yours, I fell I’m not alone on feeling and dealing with anxiety and mental health. Thank you for being there. I appreciate you.
    Lots of love, positive energy and appreciation from Brazil.

  91. who on earth would dislike this??

  92. Do those books you just said come in English

  93. Thank you so much for this and all your vids. Been unmotivated lately. I usually go to your vids to get inspired. Love your ways and love you! ✨💖

  94. Are you Stressed, Sad, or Uninspired? Follow the Simple Self-Care Tips :

  95. So I active watch kdrama up to 6 am?!?!? 😱❤️No one believes me when I say I learn by watching kdrama 😅😞

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